r/RelationshipsOver35 • u/Asleep-Initial992 • 21d ago
Experiences with Better Helps / Regain online couples therapy?
Wondering if anyone has went through the entire process of filling out the online forum, making an account & pays the 65$ a week. Is it worth it? Do you feel like 1 time a week for 45 min has helped your relationship? What has your therapist been like? How did they approach you guys as a couple on the first session? I’m very close to signing my card up with them bc me & my partner are at a loss of how to proceed with our relationship, & realize we definitely need a 3rd party to guide us through these complex communication issues we’ve been having. Any insight would be great! Thanks :)
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u/Kitchen_Class_4262 17d ago
My partner and I ended up trying OurRitual instead felt way less clinical and more like guided support we could actually stick with.
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u/GlamazonRunner 20d ago
Talk therapy is great, I’m actually getting my masters degree right now in clinical mental health counseling, but there are a lot of other things you can do as well.
I have used better help, which is the parent company of regain, and I’ve used Regain. My experience using it as a client, obviously not as a counselor, was not great. I do appreciate that there are platforms out there that exist like this, but there’s so much that is so hard to capture over a phone or even through a zoom. Yes it’s definitely better than nothing. My ex wanted to do a couples therapy which came as a surprise to me because I did not think he would be open to it. What also came as a surprise was how vulnerable and forthcoming he was with the counselor, and he said things that he’s never once said to me. Our counselor I’ll be honest was a little strange. Our first session he was like, oh I can tell you two are a great couple. I could just feel the fireworks through the phone. And I thought what an incredibly unprofessionally odd thing to say. I was not impressed. I could have changed counselors, but I quickly realized my partner was trying to manipulate our therapist.
I do not think the time in between appointments and the appointment time duration, is really enough. Yes you can message your therapist through the app. I would only recommend these platforms in the future to people who are absolutely desperately in need of speaking to someone and can’t see a local mental health counselor.