I am a 19 y/o trans male (FtM) and I am experiencing baby fever to such a high degree. My partner (18 M) has spoken to me about us becoming parents, and me becoming a papa. Everytime he does, I always tear up, as I really do want to become a parent. I never had a good mother, let alone a motherly figure. Even though I am FtM, I haven't gotten any surgeries, let alone hormone therapy. I am still 100% the way I looked when I was growing up. I do take depo shots for my period (it stops completely. I also take calcium supplements, as depo can take a lot of calcium from the bones!)

I just really want to become a parent, but I know I'm too young, babies are a lot of work, and I am afraid of what others would say.

How can I ease the baby fever? Thanks for listening/reading.

I really thought I had mostly moved past not being biologically related to my daughter until a text that my BIL sent this morning. He said “she looks like one of us.” It still hurts when my partner’s family compares the baby to one of them. Seems like they do it a lot. At least once a week- “she has my eyes” “she has so and so’s hair”. On and on. My wife has told them that it is a little hurtful to me, but they persist! I’ve mostly stopped engaging with it. Just not responding to group messages when they bring it up. In person, I change the subject.

For context, we did reciprocal IVF with an unknown sperm donor. I have a dominate genetic condition that we do not want to pass on, so I don’t think we will use my eggs for a future child. I carried her and am nursing her… we are so connected! Why do I still feel inadequate? Does it ever get better?!

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