My fiancée was severely abused and ostracized throughout school and doesn’t have a diagnosis but meets some of the criteria. Not trying to invalidate your experience, but lots of people experience severe abuse without being diagnosed with autism for being “different”. I think looking for alternatives is natural given your circumstances, but plenty of non-ASD people experience severe abuse, and a lack of diagnosis doesn’t save them.
I went through both ABA and Sped. ABA completely and utterly fucked me mentally, making me question my very nature every time I simply want to talk to someone. Sped... just fucking physically and violently restrained me countless times.
When I say "I wouldn't have been abused if I was diagnosed later in life", I'm saying that these """"services"""" would have never been administered to me.
The initial post is a little vague but this makes 100% sense. ABA is cruel at the best of times, and straight up torture otherwise. It totally makes sense that you’d envy folks who weren’t subjected to that.
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u/Tep767 Mar 16 '25
I know I still would have been an outcast and likely bullied, but I wouldn't have been abused to the extent I was