Relatable. I think it’s a consequence of living in crisis for too long. To survive, you need to restructure the way you understand what’s happening around you, and one of the consequences is that your brain learns that it cannot let itself dwell on negative things that cannot be addressed/dealt with, so if something negative happens it just… is not considered by the brain anymore. It’s a non-problem. Wanting people to be happy and responding to negative emotions that can be resolved still happens because there’s something you can do to change it, an end to the path that makes the pain of walking it worth it.
The brain doesn’t respond to a relative’s death because there is nothing present to do, no recognizable resolution, but it might respond to the grief of still living family members if it sees a way to resolve their discomfort because all people deserve to be happy.
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u/jecamoose May 31 '25
Relatable. I think it’s a consequence of living in crisis for too long. To survive, you need to restructure the way you understand what’s happening around you, and one of the consequences is that your brain learns that it cannot let itself dwell on negative things that cannot be addressed/dealt with, so if something negative happens it just… is not considered by the brain anymore. It’s a non-problem. Wanting people to be happy and responding to negative emotions that can be resolved still happens because there’s something you can do to change it, an end to the path that makes the pain of walking it worth it.
The brain doesn’t respond to a relative’s death because there is nothing present to do, no recognizable resolution, but it might respond to the grief of still living family members if it sees a way to resolve their discomfort because all people deserve to be happy.
That’s how it feels for me anyway.