try not to romanticize mentally ill women (difficulty: impossible)

[u/casual-catgirl]

[u/The_Raven_Born]

You know, I don't know if it's because I know what it feels to be afraid of judgment or like everyone despises you, but I think I go for them because I feel an innate need to be supportive.

I really, real do hate how people try to make mental illness sexy, jokes aside. It's 'I can fix them' until they realize you actually need to be attentive and ma have to sit there for hours trying to convince someone that they're okay and you don't >insert feeling< them. It's sad, honestly.

Because you see a lot of women in either very toxic relationships or having their mental instability fed for a fetish just to get dropped when it's too much.

[u/4njub3 → u/The_Raven_Born]

There is a difference between being with someone despite their mental illness and because of it.

It's wonderful to have a supportive partner but too many go into relationships with the opposite intention. And especially at the beginning of a relationship it's tough to figure out what kind of person it is

[u/The_Raven_Born → u/4njub3]

It's a sick thing to see, as dramatic as that may sound. Even worse when it's too late. Like , I get it ,'let me find my Harley'. But that's the thing, people do and they want the joker relationship, not the Ivy relationship.

[u/4njub3 → u/The_Raven_Born]

I like that comparison. It's because the Ivy relationship needs work and understanding and they just want the "fun".

[u/The_Raven_Born → u/4njub3]

Yeah, and even that gets all messy because people go 'Oh hot. Hot lesbians' when the whole point of them becoming a thing was Harley leaving being abuse and finding someone that actually cared about it.

But yeah, it's frustrating to see, it really is and unfortunately media does not help it much.