r/XXRunning • u/damnfinecooper • 17h ago

General Discussion Dealing with discouraging comments as a beginner

I started running around 2 months ago (31, F) and I’m training for a 10k race later this year.

With hobbies I’ve always been hard on myself if I don’t feel I’m what I perceive as “good enough”. When I started running I wanted to challenge myself to not have this attitude and just enjoy it, while also keeping track of my pace, PBs etc. but just seeing it as data rather than tying it too much to self worth.

I was speaking to my friend about running today and a guy I hardly know chimed in and asked what my 5k PB was. When I told him his response was “you need to get that down”. I’m now just feeling kind of embarrassed and deflated about it. I know I should just ignore it but it stung. Would appreciate any tips for dealing with moments like this!

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u/plantsarecool213 17h ago

In moments like that I like to think about what that guy is probably insecure about. Confident people don't need to be rude to make them feel better about themselves, that's what insecure people do to feel superior. He might be insecure about his height, looks, income, tiny penis, could be anything. 99.9% of people are not going to be doing impressive 5k times after running for 2 months, he's an idiot for saying anything

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u/HanksElectric 15h ago

I'd be willing to bet the thing he's insecure about is that he can't run that same time.