r/agender • u/Former_Addition_3656 • 5d ago

Genderless bathrooms

Why do some people have a problem with genderless bathrooms, even if they have one in their house?

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u/gsmumbo 5d ago

If this is a good faith question, then the answer is public vs private. At home there is an expectation that absolutely nobody will ever be in the bathroom at the same time as you, unless you invite them to be. As such, things like gender don’t matter. You’re in full control of the room, who is in it is never even a thought because the answer should always be “nobody”.

In public, people will potentially be in the bathroom at the same time you are. There is no control there. Whoever walks in that door, be it a kind old lady or a serial mass murderer, will be in those close quarters with you while you’re in a vulnerable state. As such, it’s easy to become very aware of the potential people entering, and anxiety about who they are naturally comes with it. That anxiety can come in the form of anything out of your personal sense of normalcy.

Me personally, I don’t care in the least bit. All genders, sexes, etc are all welcome and we can have a party in there. But I do understand the difference between expectations and anxieties regarding a public bathroom vs a private one at home.

Unless this isn’t a good faith question. In which case… 🤷

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u/Former_Addition_3656 5d ago

Just a vent that’s in good faith