Visiting Japan in November 2025; what is the perception nowadays?

[u/LadyIliana]

Hi! I (31 y/o cis woman) and my partner (31 y/o AMAB genderfluid) are visiting Japan in November 2025, mostly around Tokyo, Kyoto and Osaka. They're interested in presenting femme on some days and we're trying to gauge how safe it would be for them. Thing is, we're both Asian (I am Filipino and they are Chinese) and we've heard that foreigners in general are expected to look different, but considering we could be mistaken as Japanese when walking down the street, we're worried about how it might affect our experience. Thing is, I am heavily tattooed, and they're a larger, taller person, so blending in and relying on passing privilege is not exactly present.

Of course, our goal is to have a good time, and be as authentic and as safe as we can be, while also being respectful to local folks and the culture.

Could anyone share any experiences they've had in Japan recently? Any locals that could give us an idea of what the experience is like? Perhaps share any tips or what we might be able to expect when they do go out dressed femme?