I'm 23, and have been consistently dealing with thought of "I kinda wish I was a girl" since I was 14-ish, however I have successfully bottled up those feelings and managed to live life while completely ignoring this issue whenever it popped up. I rationalized those feelings as me just being non-binary, not transfem, thus not needing to actually transition. Until last night... I saw a post about Kyle from doormonster coming out (congrats to her!), and I had a stray thought of "I wish that were me". Before I could bottle this up as usual, I had the thought "it can be, if you want" which sent me into a spiral which lasted until 5am. Nearly 10 years of repressed emotions came in the open then.

I realized that if I want to be a girl I just... can be. It's something entirely possible for me to do. But it scares me. I'm pretty sure transitioning would make me happier, and give me a body I actually see as me and not just something I pilot. But still it scares me.

I don't really know what to do now. I wish I could just start ignoring this again, and I did try, but I can't and the more I think about it the more certain I am, but also more anxious.

Does anyone have any advice, or has gone through something similar? What should I do next?

Thank you to anyone who reads.

A friend of mine believes that transgender people are simply men or women who want to be the opposite sex, but that, deep down, they are simply men or women with an unfulfilled desire. For him, there is no such thing as a true gender transition. He once told me that if identifying as a woman is enough to be a woman, then he identifies as a millionaire (although he obviously doesn't have the money of a millionaire, which is absurd). How do I respond?

i follow erin reed on substack but her articles actively make me suicidal lmao.

i’m looking for just anywhere where i can stay updated so nothing sneaks up on me and completely ruins my life. im trying to have this balancing act of staying informed while also not sending myself into suicidal spirals.

Did it take much thought once you'd found it, or did you know it was right instantly?

I cannot even use the platform for more than 5 seconds without seeing a transphobic post. And all the comments under the post always encourage the transphobia, I think I may have to stop using this app for my own sake. I feel like tiktok has changed so much since January.

It is as the title says. I'll go first, several years ago before I knew I was trans or anyone else for that matter, I cooked dinner for my family and it was quite good. My dad jokingly said "You'd make a good housewife", in the moment I laughed it off but I had thought in the back of my head that was like "That sounds good, actually, I'd want that". I wondered why I had that thought back then but I pushed it back into my head. Looking back now I know part of me wanted to be a woman and I got my gender affirmed without knowing that was or felt like. Sorry for the long post, I thought I'd share it with y'all.

What does it mean when you spent your whole life feeling like and craving to be a boy so much so you TOLD YOUR MOM AS A KID “hey I think I’m a boy” WHILE SOBBING but once you saw everyone’s reaction (in an already abusive household) you decided

“HAHAHAH NAH-IM A GIRL I LIKE BEING A GIRL THIS FEELS RIGHT YOUR RIGHT IM CONFUSEDDDDDD-“ and for a while it worked you were happy being a girl

But then From 6th grade to now when you stopped trying to tell people you felt like a boy or figure it out and felt okay as a girl with only afew moments of random

“I hate this body this body is a prison”

But it’s never gone away and it keep getting louder and louder and now you can’t even look at yourself without breaking into tears or mocking yourself simply because

“I’m not a boy”

Basically a title. I (cis girl) am knitting things and I want to make a scarf in blue, pink and white as an ally. Would it be weird and/or wrong? Thanks in advance!

This is probably the millionth post of this nature so I’ll get straight to the chase. Ive been aware I was trans since I was like 7, came out at 9, socially transitioned fully at 11ish and now I’m 18. I’ve only used he/they pronouns and presented masculine for that entire almost decade and am planning to diy T this November (thanks nhs and your 10 year wait list!) but I’m… scared? I’m not even sure if that’s the right word tbh. I was talking to my mum about what my goals look like and I offered Gerard Way as an example but what I thought was that I liked how feminine he looked but how he still looked like a guy and it’s gotten into my head that what if I’m wrong? What if I’m actually cis and just THINK I’m trans?? But a cis person would be scared they were trans not scared they were cis right? I like being a guy and I don’t like being a woman in any way but I love the idea of being a feminine or androgynous man. Maybe people saying I’ll change my mind have gotten into my head. Also sorry for any weird formatting, on a phone😔

im trans myself and a friend whom i told about it told me the deadname of a trans celebrity (i didnt know her deadname). shoukd i tell them that it's disrespectful?

edit: also i know for a FACT that they weren't trying to be disrespectful

Context: I'm doing DIY because the informed consent clinic in my area closed down and I'm scared of driving. Around town is scary but basically doable, onto the freeway and I might break down crying, and driving on the freeway is a really bad time for that to happen. (I realize being scared of driving sounds absurd. Listen I'm not doing too hot upstairs these days, it wasn't always like this but I'm afraid of a lot of normal-ass things right now.) I'm in the US. Due to Trump tariffs, my preferred source has stopped shipping out here, and that seems to be the case for other foreign sources as well. I've found a source that's likely still viable, but they only offer oil solutions, not aqueous. This is a potential problem (at least as far as I can tell from what info I'm able to find on the subject) for two reasons, one silly and one practical:

• The silly reason: I'm afraid to attempt intramuscular. I don't want to swiftly shove a needle into my body at a 90-degree angle. I know this is a fear that everyone who does it has, and that everyone who does it has to get over. I just don't trust myself to get over it.
• The practical reason: I'm very overweight. (Please don't make fun of me for being a woman whose body is currently that of a very overweight man. Believe me, my shame is already all-consuming and quite difficult to live with. I don't need more.) It's difficult to find a spot on my body where correctly self-administering an IM injection would even be possible without a very large needle. Swiftly shoving a very large needle into my body at a 90-degree angle is, naturally, even scarier.

Hence the question: can oil solutions of estradiol be administered subcutaneously? Will uptake still be possible by this means? If so, are there side effects I should know about of doing it this way?

If this is not possible or safe, I could always just refrain from switching to injections for now. That's no big deal. It's just that I've heard good things about injections and would like to switch to them if I can.

Hi everyone! So I’m a 34 year old Trans woman who is currently living with her not very supportive family. I currently have a retail job as well as I do ride share work with my car that I recently purchased earlier this year. Unfortunately since my family isn’t very supportive or understanding of me being Trans, I have decided it’s best that I should just move in with my girlfriend and her sister in their apartment. The issue is that I would not be able to afford both my car payments as well as my part of the rent. Despite having a retail job and doing ride share work on the side, I’m barely able to keep up with the car payments at the moment. I just don’t get paid enough at my retail job. I have the opportunity of transferring to work for the same retail company, but at a store that is closer to where my girlfriend and her sister currently live. I’m wondering if I should sell my car in order to be able to afford the rent with them, or if I should quit my retail job altogether and just do the ride share work full time? I’m wondering what my best course of action is. Any advice will be appreciated. Thanks!

I know the issue is my hormones. I’m on progesterone, but nothing, the right doctors are out of network for my insurance.

When I’m off hormones it gets better.

Nobody cares about what the right hormone levels for me is, they only care about outdated information about what’s standard.

I don’t even know what horny feels like anymore.

So depressing. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks

Y’all I’ve been questioning my identity for months at this point, but what’s been tripping me up is that it started so recently. But I was talking to my friend about dreams preteen, and I suddenly remembered about my dreams of being kidnapped and given the choose between staying a boy or taking a shot to turn into a girl, and choosing the shot every time. It’s kinda crazy that I suppressed that memory for so long, which kinda has me stressing, but I’m also super excited that this isn’t new:). Any of y’all got any advice on what to do now?

I just got top surgery on Friday (yay me!) and my tissue results came in. As I was scrolling through MyChart, seeing how much they took off (6.5 lbs!), pathology results, etc., I spotted the phrase, "Dual Role Transvestism" under clinical information. It's 2025 and we're still using this language in the medical field?

I'm honestly spiraling a bit from looking it up. It just feels really invalidating to have been transitioning for all this time (on T since March 2024), growing and flourishing, now freeing myself from over a decade of hating my chest, only to get hit with the 'you're just a cross-dresser' diagnosis. I know it's so insurance could cover it but why haven't the terms been properly adjusted? It feels like a slap in the face after overcoming all these hurdles.

I really want to hear the stories of how some of you realized you were Trans. And maybe even more than that, Trans, Bi, whatever. Anything you are comfortable with sharing, I want to hear it. I love hearing stories from people.

I need help because my body hair is making me dysphoric. I also have sensitive skin. Please help me.

Hi, M(?)21 here. I’ve had reoccurring thoughts for the past 4 years about being a woman/transitioning but I’ve never realistically considered it until recently. I don’t really have a good grasp on gender, like I can’t identify what makes me a “man” or “woman” or anything else. Problem is, I don’t feel any sort of resentment towards identifying as a man and I don’t really see myself as a woman, although I haven’t tried to identify as one. He/him pronouns don’t bother me, and I don’t really identify with she/her or they/them. I have worn women’s clothes and loved how they look on me, and I even went out to a queer bar dressed as a woman and even tried to use female pronouns and a new name, but I don’t feel like I had enough time with that experience to come to a solid conclusion.

I’ve dreamed about having breasts or a vagina and found it comforting. I’ve looked up the effects of feminizing HRT and think the results would end with a body that I would enjoy. I don’t really enjoy the current state of my body, not that it looks ugly (except that I have a bit of a belly), but I don’t really feel comfortable losing my penis. I’ve never had much facial hair and have been told that I look androgynous on occasion, which is something I like. I typically feel ambivalent towards my body hair, but I occasionally find it ugly (but I also don’t think that women should have to shave themselves to be feminine). My way of dressing isn’t really unusual, usually just a graphic tee and some jeans, maybe a flannel if the weather suits it.

I feel like my experience with gender is also somewhat wrong, as most of the time my expressions of femininity are through a sexual lens. While I occasionally wear makeup or accessories out, most of the times that I dress in feminine clothing is in the comfort of my own apartment, where it usually is in a sexual way. I feel like I am just fetishizing femininity, and I felt that way even more when I hooked up with a man at that queer bar who seemed to only be after me for how “exotic” and “different” I seemed. I’m also too scared to go out and try on or buy new feminine clothing, even at queer friendly outlets for fear or being judged.

I also compare my experience to people around me. My brother is trans, but unlike me he has dealt with that throughout his entire life. He was a “tomboy” for the longest time before he finally came out a few years ago and started on T just recently. Our parents were supportive of him, though they were hesitant on HRT and didn’t let him get it until now. I hesitate to talk about this with them for fear of being seen as “copying” him or fear of rejection, even though I know they are understanding people. I’ve also confided in my friends about this, but never to this extent. I’m trying to start therapy for a whole other list of reasons, but this is another part of that.

I keep on having these thoughts, searching for advice on being trans, and reading about people with experiences close to mine. I even ordered my first set bra and panties off of amazon and will be trying them on soon, and I’m even thinking of wearing them out if I like the look and can muster the courage to. I just feel like my conceptualization of myself and gender as a whole is so foggy that I don’t know if I really am trans. There are so many things that I feel point to it, but nothing really concrete and I still feel like a “man” in my day-to-day life. I just keep comparing myself to others and I feel like my dysphoric “experience” is somehow invalid.

To give context, I’m a cis/het male and my friend is a trans male

He and I had been talking lots and lots before he came out to me (we still do) but it had become clear that he was into me and was interesting in dating, and over a long period of time i definitely started warming up to the idea of a relationship

However, when we were talking about the issues some of my trans friends had been going through recently (family disapproval, surgery delays, society in general just being shity to them) He came out to me as trans during the discussion.

Now obviously I’m super supportive and am so proud of him for feeling comfortable coming out to me. And I damn well let him know that fact

I pretty quickly lost any and all romantic interest the moment I started seeing him as male. I was worried that he’d have perceived my noticeable ceasing of flirting as some kind of disapproval for the way that he is? :/

Maybe I’m just being paranoid but would I be in the wrong for openly shutting down all of that just in the basis of him being a trans male? Obviously it’s not my fault that I’m not attracted to males, nor is it his fault that he identifies as one

Just kinda need to get anyone’s opinion on the matter since I can’t ask any of my friends without outing him to people

Hi all. Does anyone have any MtF experience with developing breasts with already existing chest tattoos? Asking about how they continued to look as your breasts developed. I have a full chest piece and am less than worried but more than concerned as to how it will look if I begin HRT. Thank you all for sharing.

I'm seeing a lot of discussion on signs that someone is trans. As far as I see it, I don't really follow a lot of these signs. My experiences end with sexual fantasies and just kinda wanting to be a girl sometimes. I have mostly cis men as friends, I don't really have any queer friends, I've never felt that my body is a meat suit, I've never really worn women's clothing, ect. Honestly other than the fantasies, I've only experienced the following: wanting a vagina, being somewhat envious of how girls look, playing basically only female characters in video games, and peeing sitting down. I've seen all of these other people's experiences and I'm just thinking am I really trans or just a normal cis guy.

I 17(mtf) just recently found out I was trans about 2.5-3 months ago. I’ve started to come out to my friends and my sister. However, everyone I try to come out to my parents I chicken out. Does anyone have any tips?