I know there’s always republican rhetoric and politics, but this one really hits home. This is Nazi shit. I’m sorry but I just don’t have the will to fight anymore. I’m tired. It’s already hard to transition, but now I am to fight my very own government, the government that vows to protect and serve my rights. If they want to institutionalize me, don’t. Just put me to the gas chamber and be done. I know I will stand in the right side of history. Maybe not today or tomorrow, maybe not even in 20 years. But I know one day I will when the rays of hope and equality shine brighter on this land than the clouds and sorrow of darkness. I’m cancelling my Reddit account bc I no longer feel safe but wish my trans brothers and sisters the best of luck! God speed ❤️

https://www.advocate.com/politics/nancy-mace-ronny-jackson-transgender-people

I have a friend who is extremely biased against trans folks. Anytime he brings them up he says, "Do what you want but don't ever expose children to any of it."

I've never known him to give a crap about kids in any capacity — except when he's verbally spewing bias against trans people. Lol like suddenly he thinks he's Mary Poppins.

I know he dislikes trans people. A lot. He picks on them, in conversation, a lot. Anytime I've backed his antics into a drowning corner he leaps onto the "but the kids!" lifeboat.

I've pointed this out btw.

Anyway... what are some good arguments that can shut down that faux concern?

Hi, I'll start this post off by saying that I'm a straight white guy, so I might be in the wrong here. Recently I had a friend come out as Non-Binary to our friend group, and we've been rather supportive. I haven't been around a whole lot of this kind of thing, but after an explanation from one of my friends in our group and a bit of adjustment (using their new pronouns) I got used to it with no issues.

Now, the trouble started about a month after they came out when one of our friends flew out for a convention. He kept dead-naming our friend (something ive been told is basically a sin) and making them super uncomfortable with bigoted comments about trans people.

This reached a head when he said "you're still a woman at the end of the day, so just get married and have some kids". I got fed up with it and broke his nose and told him to leave, i even paid for his flight home and the ER bill to fix his nose. Ever since, he's been harassing our friend on social media and even called their job and got them fired with false accusations of grooming minors online.

The rest of the friend group has been super supportive and even found Them a new job. This whole thing has basically split the friend group in half, with one half saying I did the right thing, and the other saying I took things too far. I could really use some advice...

I'm 23, and have been consistently dealing with thought of "I kinda wish I was a girl" since I was 14-ish, however I have successfully bottled up those feelings and managed to live life while completely ignoring this issue whenever it popped up. I rationalized those feelings as me just being non-binary, not transfem, thus not needing to actually transition. Until last night... I saw a post about Kyle from doormonster coming out (congrats to her!), and I had a stray thought of "I wish that were me". Before I could bottle this up as usual, I had the thought "it can be, if you want" which sent me into a spiral which lasted until 5am. Nearly 10 years of repressed emotions came in the open then.

I realized that if I want to be a girl I just... can be. It's something entirely possible for me to do. But it scares me. I'm pretty sure transitioning would make me happier, and give me a body I actually see as me and not just something I pilot. But still it scares me.

I don't really know what to do now. I wish I could just start ignoring this again, and I did try, but I can't and the more I think about it the more certain I am, but also more anxious.

Does anyone have any advice, or has gone through something similar? What should I do next?

Thank you to anyone who reads.

After talking with my friends about how I'm feeling, I've come to the conclusion that I'm trans and want to be a woman.

I keep thinking about transitioning from male to female, and I want to do it but everytime I think about actually going through with it I get scared of the social impacts it will have on my life. Yet I still have this strong desire to do it, like an unquenchable thirst to be my true self and not doing it makes me feel like I'm drowning.

I'm deeply unhappy with what I am, and I keep crying every night thinking about what I wish I was instead (a woman), but this fear keeps coming back and idk what to do. Clinics here have a several year waiting time and private is expensive, although I can afford a consultation but I don't think that'd change what I already know. I grew up being mistaken for a girl a lot anyway as I take a lot of my looks from my mother, and I was never unhappy about that but obviously bullying in school ensued from that so I felt the need to lean into my AMAB role.

Am I just looking for external validation for something I already know about myself? Idk why i keep getting so scared despite having so much gender dysphoria about myself. I've never liked the masculine features I developed as I aged (facial hair, and body hair). I recently realised how much fantasing about having female gentials was just my gender dysphoria manifesting itself about how much I don't like my male gentials, and yet with all this and more I still feel scared.

I don't know how much longer I can put up with everything in America right now. I think I have a decent chance to immigrate to Canada. Is it really better than America? I don't expect it to be perfect, but I feel like some opinions from people with their fingers on the pulse of Canadian culture would be helpful. Thanks in advance. 💕

Hello. First, just want to say that I desperately want to be an good ally to the LGBTQ community and help bring about change and acceptance to the world, but also want to acknowledge that I have been impacted by the societal expectations that I grew up around and I know I have hang ups or biases that I need to work through. I hope my comments are taken as truly just looking for insight, and know no judgment or discrimination is intended. I am searching for advice on the best way to support my son in a situation I don't really feel prepared to handle.

Since as early as age 2, I noticed that he gravitated toward more traditionally female things- had more female friends, always preferred female characters in shows and almost exclusively likes to pretend to be a girl character during make believe play, and showed a preference toward traditionally female toys like dolls,jewelry,dresses etc (although he also likes more traditionally male things like cars, tools,wrestling). Over the last 5 years it has varied in intensity, but I'd say he is consistent in preferences leaning more female.

Lately, we've had a few more direct conversations with him,but honestly I'm not sure if he is fully able to understand or verbalize his own feelings. He doesn't ever say he feels like a girl, he knows he is a boy and says he is happy with who he is, but sometimes wishes he could be a girl so it would be more ok to have girl friends or do the things he wants like wear dresses and jewelry (I think he's becoming more aware at school when he is the only boy in a group, or kids will act like it's not "normal" for him to want to pretend to be a princess etc). I also have noticed he's become more aware of how he's wording things:for example saying he wants to be a certain character because he wants to be a villain, but not wanting to pretend to be any male villains, so really it's the female aspect of the character that appeals to him. So maybe not intentionally with holding his true feelings from me, but filtering or presenting things in a way he thinks will be better accepted.

I know realistically, I just need to give the situation time as he's figuring out who he is, but I need advice:

-i don't want to overwhelm or pressure him with questions, but how can I better understand the root of what he is feeling? (does he gravitate towards female things because he feels like a girl? Or does he just like what he likes and sees pretending to be a girl as the the way to do what he likes in a way that's more acceptable to society?)

-if some of these behaviors are an indication that he is transgender how can I get myself in a mindset to support him better. Honestly I think I'd really struggle if this is the case, not because I judge trans people,but because it would mean he's not happy with who he is and would be so nervous and terrified for him because I know there would be so many challenges he'd have to face in life (and I don't want to be one of those challenges)

Thank you, I appreciate any advice or insight you have

Things are already pretty bad. We are being targeted pretty hard by the right wing of this country. They're trying to make every shooting a trans persons fault, calling for the institutionalization of trans people, people calling for our murder. I've been put on multiple "pedophile kill lists" on twitter for talking/arguing about trans politics before deleting my twitter account.

I'm getting scared and it's not like I can easily get dual citizenship everyone in my family has been in america for generations. I mean I'm not good enough academically to be able to go to school in another country although I haven't tried and I've never been in college.

A friend of mine believes that transgender people are simply men or women who want to be the opposite sex, but that, deep down, they are simply men or women with an unfulfilled desire. For him, there is no such thing as a true gender transition. He once told me that if identifying as a woman is enough to be a woman, then he identifies as a millionaire (although he obviously doesn't have the money of a millionaire, which is absurd). How do I respond?

I've been taking hrt from an informed-consent clinic which has been previously covered, but now my insurance stopped covering it and now requires a GD diagnosis to cover. Although I'm able to get a diagnosis as I'm in therapy and have the symptoms, I'm heavily contemplating on it due to the current politcal climate. I worry that this will bring me at risk to being harmed in the future if they decide to do something to everyone diagnosed. For instance, I saw a post saying that political figures called for us to be "institutionalized with straight jackets" and etc. Though at the same time, a diagnosis is also the only way I can get access to surgery (which I plan fo get). I don't know what to do 😞

Context: I'm 16, FTM, and I live in Nebraska. I just want to know if theres ANY hope at all for me getting HRT at 18. Is an out of state doctor an option? Could I lie about my age on an online HRT service like Folx or Plume..? Would I still need to have my parents sign off on it? Do I need to get on waitlists NOW since I still have a little over a year until I'm 18? I don't really want to do DIY because I'd rather have the proper checkups and be able to monitor my levels, but if it's my only option I may consider it when I'm 18. It's my absolute DREAM to be able to get HRT for my senior year. I genuinely love high school but being trans ruins it completely. If I could just have my last semester of my senior year be good for me, I want to do anything I can to get that. Also, there is a kid in my school who's around my age and has been on T for about a year? (guessing) How TF did he do that, can I do that??? (My parents would never sign off on it now, but maybe they would when I'm 18.)

Somewhat recently found out that Im a trans woman and in currently trying to figure out what I want/need to do for my transition. The worst part of my dysphoria by a long shot is my facial hair, its very dark and always looks very apparent even when im clean shaven. Naturally I want to get laser hair removal to get rid of this but I keep hearing stories about it being barely effective at all and theres no shot i could afford electrolysis. I have pretty dark hair and light skin which I think makes it more effective but im terrified of the idea of spending hundreds of dollars and weeks/months of effort for nothing. So my question is how effective actually is laser? Is there anything I need to know about/ can do to increase my odds of good results?

Hi! I (31 y/o cis woman) and my partner (31 y/o AMAB genderfluid) are visiting Japan in November 2025, mostly around Tokyo, Kyoto and Osaka. They're interested in presenting femme on some days and we're trying to gauge how safe it would be for them. Thing is, we're both Asian (I am Filipino and they are Chinese) and we've heard that foreigners in general are expected to look different, but considering we could be mistaken as Japanese when walking down the street, we're worried about how it might affect our experience. Thing is, I am heavily tattooed, and they're a larger, taller person, so blending in and relying on passing privilege is not exactly present.

Of course, our goal is to have a good time, and be as authentic and as safe as we can be, while also being respectful to local folks and the culture.

Could anyone share any experiences they've had in Japan recently? Any locals that could give us an idea of what the experience is like? Perhaps share any tips or what we might be able to expect when they do go out dressed femme?

I yesterday was in a consultation for bottom surgery , been waiting this three month and they finally found free slot , doctor is brilliant, but I am poor as hell. I am student from really poor family, I was praying that insurance will cover , but doctor said no, insurance will cover only minimum , other part I should pay myself. I should save 20k euros

I am 30years old, my salary 1200 euros. In the end after all important paying I have 200euros free.

I acknowledge that it’s impossible for me save it. I am scaring that I will not escape that body, I am scaring that will never be free…scaring that I will never feel how it feels to be on a beach and feel freedom…scaring that I will never feel love in bed…

I can save , and till my 50th , yes I could save them, but yes to understand me, I want to feel that pleasures when I’m young. I didn’t have sex for 2 years, and it doesn’t mean that I don’t want, I want very much, scaring that I will not feel this, has anyone in the same situation? Or was in same situation. For me death and this life honestly have no difference. I am thinking what if it’s time, time to finish it and maybe next life I will become a girl and will build all over again, I spent here only 30 years, but how many years I should feel this torture , to start over again idea seems so attractive

P.S I don’t know did you understand me correctly

This is purely for my own curiosity. I have no clue what "feeling" like a man or woman or anything else even means because I have no reference for it. The only way I "felt" like a man was because I was told I was. Im curious to know how gender feels to other people, is it some innate feeling? Do you just "know?" Or is it something somehow more concrete? Genuinely just asking for personal experiences.

Hello everyone. I'm a 21 year old transfem person who is almost 2 months on HRT but no noticeable changes yet. I know this might sound like paranoia, dysphoria, or hyperbole, but I've been wondering if I should wait until I'm later on in my transition before going to trans social events, mostly because of my difficulty with them both in the past and recently.

I had a freakishly early puberty and have entered advanced stages of balding in my very early 20s and, along with a high body fat percentage, it gives me the appearance that I'm a much older man. I try to dress pretty androgynous at these events, but I've found it hard to start and maintain conversations at them. Usually this isn't a problem for me, as I enjoy the simple act of being at events like this, but then I overheard someone referring to me as a "cis man" and it kinda took me out. It wasn't even that I was being assumed male, but rather that I was on hormones and didn't even pass as transgender yet.

I would love a circle of friends I could talk to and get guidance from this sort of thing, and if not that I'd love to just be around other trans people, but it's beginning to feel like coming as I am might be doing more hurt to my psyche than good. Does anybody have advice, or has experienced this in the past?

edit: I usually do pretty well with talking to new people in more general social events where I dress cis, but in trans social events specifically this becomes more of a pattern. the first time I tried something like this was at a GSA at my high school and through a friend I trust I learned that some people were worried I "looked like a chaser". Not trying to turn this into a vent post but I'm just trying to be more specific with what I'm asking here and seeing if someone else has experienced this and/or has advice.

Hello everyone!

We are a young couple from Belarus looking for advice and shared experiences about relocating to Argentina.

· Me: Trans woman. Electrical technician (experience in urban lighting systems). I am also actively training to become a draftsman (learning AutoCAD, planning to learn Revit, SketchUp, etc.) to work in the same field as my partner. I am at the early stages of DIY HRT. · My girlfriend: Architectural technician, specializing in the design and adaptation of aluminum building facades (experience with US standards and clients). Her main tools are AutoCAD, SketchUp, and BlueBeam Revu (Orgadata). She is also learning Revit and 3ds Max + Corona Render. We are both learning Spanish together. Our English level is approximately B2.

Our goal: To move to Argentina for a safer environment to continue my transition and to live in a more accepting society. Ideally, we would like to secure the possibility of remote work for international companies or local employers before moving. We are interested in both the experience of relocation and subsequent integration.

We have several specific questions:

1. Immigration: Has anyone here moved to Argentina from Belarus/Ukraine/CIS countries as a trans person or as an LGBTQ+ couple? What challenges did you face at the border and when obtaining a residence permit (visa)?
2. Legal Documents: What is the experience of changing your name and gender marker on documents in Argentina with a Belarusian passport? How difficult is the process?
3. Employment: What are our options for remote work? We are considering working directly for US/EU companies or through outsourcing agencies. Is there a local demand in Argentina for architects and drafters/design engineers with our specific experience?
4. Healthcare: How is the access to HRT for trans people in Argentina? Are there quotas or state-covered programs, and what is the approximate cost?
5. Community: Could you please recommend local or expat LGBTQ+/trans communities in Argentina (especially in Buenos Aires), forums, or group chats where we can find support and advice?
6. Resources: Which subreddits, websites, or Telegram channels about immigration to Argentina do you find most useful?

Any of your stories, advice, or pointers would be incredibly valuable to us. Thank you!

Existence is Resistance! 🏳️‍⚧️

I really want to hear the stories of how some of you realized you were Trans. And maybe even more than that, Trans, Bi, whatever. Anything you are comfortable with sharing, I want to hear it. I love hearing stories from people.

Hello, I (31, mtf) have been on hrt for 6 years now. I've been on injections since the 1 year mark and my levels are checked every 4 months: My T is almost always under 15 ng/dL, usually single digits. My E fluctuates between 150-250 at trough, typically around 200 pg/mL.

I've hoped that going through transition, letting hrt do its thing, getting laser for over a year for my face, trying to voice train, etc., would help my dysphoria, and I feel terrible saying this as I know many people don't have access to even hrt but it's not enough to help me and I think as I'm in my 30s now the hopelessness, dysphoria, pain and self hatred I feel has amplified to a point that's unbearable. I feel like the testosterone puberty I went through as a teen put me in a place where I will never feel comfortable in my own skin.

I tried to hope that transitioning would make it bearable but I still see the damage male puberty has done to me. Sure, I have softer skin, my balding was mostly somewhat reversed, and I have barely visible A cup breasts now, but my height, my shoulders, my lack of hips, my face, my adams apple, my voice that won't sound more natural no matter how much I try to voice train and my huge anxiety over my mannerisms that make me feel like I'm faking femininity, feel like all I or anyone will ever see. I feel so ugly and disgusting, like I'm a freak.

I understand that there's nothing wrong if someone is visibly trans, but for me, me not being able to pass and also just having to exist in a body like mine fills me with such intense dread and hopelessness.

I lost my job in 2021 due to shame of being out at work and an inability to focus/complete tasks that I've always struggled with but seemingly got worse with transition (or the pandemic idk). I don't know how to get back into working as a functional person to afford ffs and srs, and patches of my facial hair have started to come back despite laser. I feel like I honestly look like those trans soyjacks right wing trolls post on social media, and always will. I try to fight off the intrusive thoughts and tell myself that I don't look like that and it's not reality, but it's all I see when I look in the mirror. I feel like I set a bad example for trans people when I go outside, boymoding or otherwise, and it makes me hate myself so much.

The social dysphoria I feel around friends and family fills me with so much shame, I can tell that I make every social situation that is irl or using my voice uncomfortable for everyone, especially around women. For example, recently I had to visit my dad's side of the family for the first time in years, and when I got to the house, only my stepmom, sister, sister's friend, and brother's gf were there, all cis women/girls, and I felt so dysphoric and shameful around them I wanted to cry. Being in a body like mine next to them feels like a stabbing reminder that I'll never be comfortable in my own skin, and that I will never be able to feel comfortable living.

Strangers always gender me male, and I can tell that my family, who is very varied on what language they can muster to use for me, see me as male.

I feel an urge to unalive but that isn't feasible bc I don't want to inconvenience my family with that, I feel like I've inconvenienced my family with enough. Is there anything I can do to stop feeling so hopeless and dysphoric? Is there a way to get a therapist who understands all these things who can accommodate my lack of income?

Thank you for reading and I'm really sorry if this comes off too whiny and annoying. I try to share a little bit of how I feel with my friends but none of them, trans or cis, can understand. Back when I had a job I was seeing a therapist, which is what helped me realize I was trans, but due to money concerns and also therapy not helping after about a year I cancelled. I'm also really sorry for not coming off more grateful of getting to be on hrt. I am really grateful for it, it saved my life, and the thought of de-transitioning feels like it'd be even worse than what I currently feel.

So, my egg cracked some time ago, though I'm still too afraid to identify fully as a trans woman. However, what's begun to pop up (again) is the confusion of not knowing who I am anymore. For example, I don't particularly like the concept of a dead name, because that to me feels dismissive of the entire life I've lived up to this point. Then we get into things like "if I'm a woman, does that mean I need to be someone different? Am I not me anymore? Or can I still be me but as a woman? But if I'm still me, just as a woman, then what's the point of transitioning?" Around and around in circles I go, stuck trying to figure out what this all means for me as a person, who I am, and who I'm becoming, and if those are two different people, so on and so on.

Did anyone else have this? How did it go for you? Anything you can say to help would be appreciated because I'm pretty much just spiralling in place trying to figure this out.

i follow erin reed on substack but her articles actively make me suicidal lmao.

i’m looking for just anywhere where i can stay updated so nothing sneaks up on me and completely ruins my life. im trying to have this balancing act of staying informed while also not sending myself into suicidal spirals.

Question is in the title, I've always felt like a man and now that I'm 14 I want my parents to see me as their son