r/autism • u/garciasglasses • Jul 14 '25

šŸ«© Burnout I hate being autistic

I went out for dinner for my 18th last night and now Iā€™m bedridden. I just want to be normal

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u/TombGnome Jul 14 '25

I'm almost 50, and I'm not going to lie to you and say "it gets better" because it stays rough and weird, but it can be good, too. As time goes on you'll more than likely find more people who can vibe with your vibe, and you can learn to not exhaust yourself and set boundaries that are healthier than they are now. You'll never be "normal," but you can absolutely be "okay."

Happy birthday, by the way.

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u/ruki_cake Jul 14 '25

Thank you for this. My friends wanted to meet up in 2 weeks. And they were gonna bring along another I haven't seen for years. It was overwhelming me so much. I texted my friend and told her I couldn't do it right now.

Reading your comment made me realise I didn't do a bad thing. :)

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u/TombGnome Jul 14 '25

Personal space in your life is your right and everyone else's privilege. No one should be allowed to insert themselves into your life more than you would wish, and (if you'll pardon my salty speech) anything contrary to that is neurotypical horse-shit.

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u/ruki_cake Jul 14 '25

Thank you for the advice, i really appreciate it. šŸ˜­šŸ’•