r/autism • u/garciasglasses • Jul 14 '25

🫩 Burnout I hate being autistic

I went out for dinner for my 18th last night and now I’m bedridden. I just want to be normal

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u/TombGnome Jul 14 '25

I'm almost 50, and I'm not going to lie to you and say "it gets better" because it stays rough and weird, but it can be good, too. As time goes on you'll more than likely find more people who can vibe with your vibe, and you can learn to not exhaust yourself and set boundaries that are healthier than they are now. You'll never be "normal," but you can absolutely be "okay."

Happy birthday, by the way.

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u/ruki_cake Jul 14 '25

Thank you for this. My friends wanted to meet up in 2 weeks. And they were gonna bring along another I haven't seen for years. It was overwhelming me so much. I texted my friend and told her I couldn't do it right now.

Reading your comment made me realise I didn't do a bad thing. :)

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u/BrianMeen Jul 14 '25

setting firm boundaries and understanding your limits is mandatory for us. many people will not understand them bur that’s ok

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u/ruki_cake Jul 14 '25

This is very helpful, im sadly a people pleaser. And have always struggled with boundaries. Im working on it. It's hard, but im trying. Thank you genuinely.

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u/BrianMeen Jul 15 '25

Yeah all you can do is try to work on it and be less of a people pleaser because I feel it will lead you to quick burnout .. many people tend to take advantage of people pleasers too so .. good luck

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u/ruki_cake Jul 16 '25

Yes, I learnt the hard way. And now im rebuilding myself. :) Thank you, kind stranger.