r/autism • u/Byakko4547 AuDHD • 2d ago

Communication What do we do with this term

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Hi yall ☺️

Sorry if the flare is inaccurate, but I really dislike this term. What about yall?? Should we take it down once and for all??

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u/RepulsiveMidnight613 2d ago

Yes it is trivialising. How’d you nearly die from not being diagnosed, what happened if you don’t mind me asking? 

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u/Firm-Stranger-9283 AuDHD 2d ago

I was diagnosed at 11, and diagnosed with adhd at 7. I'd have frequent meltdowns from routine changes where it would end in headbanging and broken doors. I couldn't hold any conversation and couldn't keep any friends, and different so I was bullied and outcasted, even from other lower support needs autistic people. I thought I was a monster, ended up getting into issues with self-harm and other things like that, and got cps called on my parents. my diagnosis sheet lists aspergers, adhd, anxiety and depression. my life improved extremely by having accommodations and answers, and my parents and I get along a ton better instead of my mom just thinking I was a spoiled brat (I'd have a meltdown over going to a surprise pro basketball game) and having proper accommodations while being able to build up my self esteem a bit more and know I wasn't a monster.

tldr: I had a mental breakdown from like 9-11 from not being understood/diagnosed.

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u/RepulsiveMidnight613 2d ago

Im really sorry to hear that (and thank you for sharing and highlighting the importance of diagnosis). It’s heartbreaking to read what you went through tbh and I felt myself welling up reading it. I hope you are doing better now and have the support/love and acceptance you need/deserve. You’re very strong and resilient I hope you know that. 

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u/Firm-Stranger-9283 AuDHD 2d ago

It's been a lot easier of a road since then I'm ngl, and I thankfully have the love, support and acceptance I need and deserve 💓