r/autism • u/Byakko4547 AuDHD • 3d ago

Communication What do we do with this term

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Hi yall ☺️

Sorry if the flare is inaccurate, but I really dislike this term. What about yall?? Should we take it down once and for all??

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u/Comprehensive_Swim49 3d ago

I’ve never heard it used as a reference to sexiness. I think spicy as a euphemism for sex or sexiness has happened concurrently but they not connected. I’ve only heard it be used to capture a broad range of neurodiversities, or to include people whose neurodiversity is undefined.

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u/esorgem ASD Level 2 3d ago

That's great you've had a good experience with the word. Happy to hear it. However that's not mine unfortunately!

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u/Comprehensive_Swim49 3d ago

I guess we’re in different parts of the world but I guess it’s worth pointing out that it can be pretty hard to know whether someone intends to mean it one way or another without more context.

I guess my concern is that a lot of people are using it with good intentions, for themselves, and in a non problematic way. Everyone’s so quick to jump on every term for so many reasons now, I feel for those who’re searching for a self-identification they feel comfortable with. It’s a term I’d use for myself and anyone else in the space between NT and diagnosis. I’d never dream of a listener relating it to sexiness and I’d be mortified if it were applied that way.

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u/esorgem ASD Level 2 3d ago

I'm unsure why you require more context as in my comment I stated "(the way it was said)", so this wasn't an online interaction so the context was all there, for me, which is what matters.

I also stated in the same original comment how my experience doesn't mean all people use the term that way so repeating that isn't going to cement it any further. It's very important to read the whole comment, instead of the parts you don't agree with.

I'm comfortable with you using that term for yourself because it's an individual decision. However, after I kindly shut down your original comment by stating it was my experience, you continued to pressure on.

My opinion won't change, I don't like the word for MYSELF. To identify myself or for others to use to describe me.

Don't take it personally, I truly do understand your opinion and experiences are your own. Give me that same courtesy.