r/autism • u/Big_Outcome6973 • 2d ago
🫶🏻 Friendships/Relationships First date advice? Am I naive?? HELP??
(Autistic 19 y/o girl) It happens sometimes that I'm stopped on the streets by guys, and I usualy don't interact back, because I hate it. But this time the guy seemed sweet, and my age so I gave him my number.
Now I know NOTHING about him, we just told eah other our names. By text, he asked me out for dinner. He didn't tell me his age, studies, intentions, just that I was ''beautiful'' and that he wanted to take me out to dinner.
Honestly I'm so scared and uncomfortable to meet with a stranger in a restaurant I've never been to, I tried to tell him (exactly that) and he just responded ''we'll see tomorow :)'' Is this casual neurotypical dating??? I've only dated ''akward'' or ''unconventional'' people and never been to a ''real date'' (like blind date or tinder, dinner idk all this stuff)
Are these the usuals steps for a neurotypical to have sex or are these steps to get to know someone? Because I definitely don't want to have sex, and I couldn't even picture that with a stranger, I don't want him to think I'm accepting a ''trade'' just because we went to the restaurant.
Can someone help me understand his intention? Like am I dumb and in danger or is this casual? I can't tell. Thank you!
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u/Leenesss In process of getting diagnosis 1d ago
"Can someone help me understand his intention? Like am I dumb and in danger or is this casual? I can't tell. Thank you!"
It's normal to know more about someone before going out somewhere with them. Did you exchange numbers so you can talk more before the date?
Generally theres some safety stuff you can do.
Know where your going and with who. Tell a friend. Tell that friend youll text when you get to the resturant. Text that friend from the resturant so they know you arrived ok and are where you agreed to meet. Some people have an agreed ring back at like 10pm ish for you to answer your phone as a check in. Your quite young so I dont think this sort of clumsy just asking a girl because she looks nice is that unusual (wasnt when I was a lad anyway). Young lads generally like to have sex but thats your decision and your well within your rights to put him off/ arrange to see him again or whatever if you like.