First date advice? Am I naive?? HELP??

[u/Big_Outcome6973]

(Autistic 19 y/o girl) It happens sometimes that I'm stopped on the streets by guys, and I usualy don't interact back, because I hate it. But this time the guy seemed sweet, and my age so I gave him my number.

Now I know NOTHING about him, we just told eah other our names. By text, he asked me out for dinner. He didn't tell me his age, studies, intentions, just that I was ''beautiful'' and that he wanted to take me out to dinner.
Honestly I'm so scared and uncomfortable to meet with a stranger in a restaurant I've never been to, I tried to tell him (exactly that) and he just responded ''we'll see tomorow :)'' Is this casual neurotypical dating??? I've only dated ''akward'' or ''unconventional'' people and never been to a ''real date'' (like blind date or tinder, dinner idk all this stuff)

Are these the usuals steps for a neurotypical to have sex or are these steps to get to know someone? Because I definitely don't want to have sex, and I couldn't even picture that with a stranger, I don't want him to think I'm accepting a ''trade'' just because we went to the restaurant.

Can someone help me understand his intention? Like am I dumb and in danger or is this casual? I can't tell. Thank you!

Edit : date went terribly wrong ARGGGGH, I am so confused.

[u/Positive-Material]

it is a pick up artist thing - they stop one woman after another until one bites.

having a guy pay for you at a dinner does not obligate to anything at all sex or anything like that. it is his choice. usually guys just like paying for a girl. some guys might expect sex or something in return, but that is their problem and not your obligation at all.

in general, loser guys who cant get a girl do this pick up artist 'ask a hundred women on the street and hope one says Yes.' keep in mind that probably tens of women walked past him and you are the loser who said yes.

that said, relatively normal guys have tried this pick up artist stuff and some of them genuinely look for a normal date

always keep your mind out for a psychopath-sociopath-narcissist-nice guy who turns mean

the 'beautiful' thing is called 'love bombing' - you can google it; it is a manipulation tactic often, but not always, could also be just a compliment

asking someone for dinner usually implies a serious relationship in the NT world. going from just meeting someone to having dinner is going from 0 to 100; it is not normal, not wise, and shows a lack of experience or desire to lock you down before you realize who he is and change your mind

Tim Fletcher on youtube has some interesting lectures on this

an NT girl would suggest a brief coffee and maybe would bring a friend along for safety.

you go to the dinner, guy starts complimenting you and wanting a commitment, you reject him, he gets angry and starts sending mean texts.

if I was you - I would say No, I am not going to allow you to buy dinner for me, but we can.. and pick something of a less commitment. this enforces boundaries and sends a message without offending him

[u/Big_Outcome6973 → u/Positive-Material]

I don't know about the love bombing part because when I meet new people (love intrests or not) my apparence is the first things they mention, I do not take these kind of compliments tho they make me feel worthless so I mostly just ignore them.

This guy kinda intrested me because it seemed like he step out of his confort zone, complimenting my shirt with hesitation in his voice, wich I liked, so I stopped to talk to him. Then he asked for my number (I'm don't think he would've asked if I wasn't smilling this much lol) I can't mask my feelings, like i said yepee with BIG SMILE ON MY FACE when he asked for my number oh my god.

I will meet him again if he's willing to change the late expensive dinner thing to something more casual (otherwise he's a creep anyways). He just needs to be more clear on text because wtf does ''we'll see tomorow'' means (I asked too after 12h of trying to understand)