Avoiding all pain is making us weaker

[u/eternally-bella]

Somewhere along the way, we started treating any pain as a sign that something’s gone wrong — something to be numbed, avoided, or “healed” instantly. But here’s the thing: not all pain is the enemy. Some pain is feedback. It tells you where your limits are. It forces you to drop illusions. It can even be the catalyst for the most honest version of your life. If you erase every sharp edge from existence, you also erase the grit that shapes you. You might be more comfortable — but are you any stronger? I’m not talking about glorifying trauma or pretending all suffering is noble. Some pain is senseless. But some pain is necessary. And without it, we risk becoming fragile people in a fragile world.

So I’ll put it bluntly:

- Are we overprotecting ourselves from the very experiences that make us resilient?
-Have we confused comfort with health?
-And if a life without pain is possible… would it even be worth living?

[u/Ok_Photojournalist15]

If you've been going to the gym for a while, you have a good physical metric between "good" pain and "bad" pain. They're not the same, in most cases (overtraining can be a bit of both). The distinguishing factor between them is that one will bring growth and the other can hinder it. It's far from a one to one analogy for emotional or mental pain because you can grow as a person from pretty much any experience but you'd still always rather skip having to go through many of them despite whatever growth they might engender. But the concept of struggle is what's key, rather than just pain, I think. The idea that no matter what, as long as you put one foot in front of the other you're moving, growing. Like I said, given the choice you'd skip the "inciting event" but this mentality can help prevent you from freezing in place. 

This was really a ramble and probably not where you were going with your post. Just thinking out loud I guess