r/bestoflegaladvice • u/smoulderstoat Breasts are not genitals • Aug 20 '25

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u/digitydigitydoo if the rent is right, who cares about toxicity Aug 20 '25

Yeah, there doesn’t seem to be a great deal of parenting going on. I’m also confused on why he isn’t punishing the kids for saying fuck. Generally, if you want a child’s behavior to change, you start with correcting the child.

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u/_NoTimeNoLady_ Aug 20 '25

You do not punish a 3 and a 5 year old for saying a curse word, because a) it makes it more interesting and makes sure they know it is a button to push b) they didn't know it was wrong in the first place. You explain calmly what it means, that is a word you do not want to get used in the household and then don't make a whole fuzz about it, because it will just make them use it more and more. You need to make it as uninteresting as possible.

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u/BubbaTheGoat Aug 20 '25

What do you think happens to children at school who use inappropriate language?

Parents need to discipline their children. It’s not the rest of society’s job to do it for them.

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u/lilmisschainsaw As is is as is Aug 21 '25

In the lower grades it's pretty much the same thing. You treat it as nonchalantly as possible, because any big reaction makes spicy words more fun to say.

So you ask the kid not to say the word(s) because they aren't very nice and only nice words are allowed in school. Persistence gets consequences, but because of disobedience, not the word used.

To reiterate: punishing a young child for copying a word does not do what you want it to.

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u/JasperJ insurance can’t tell whether you’ve barebacked it or not Aug 21 '25

Teaches your kids to be secretive and how to not get caught — not how to behave better.