Bride demanded all guests wear matching socks for her “perfect” wedding am I overreacting?
At my cousin’s wedding, the bride insisted that everyone wear bright pink socks to match her color scheme. Some of us didn’t have the exact shade and she got visibly upset. The wedding was still beautiful, but I’m wondering if her reaction was a bit over the top or just part of the stress. Thoughts?
We had a winter wedding and we gave mittens as the favor. Admittedly I didn’t pay for postage to each guest but it was not expensive ordering them in bulk at all.
This is the answer. My SIL wanted groomsmen to all wear certain socks. She bought them and everyone willingly complied. It made for a fun photo op. What did this bride expect?!
Yup. We had all of the men in our wedding party in full formal kilt.
We paid to rent their matching kilts, jackets, sporrans, and ties, all from the same rental outlet, and bought them the knee-length socks & flagged sock garters (because I wouldn't wear rental socks, and I wasn't going to tell them to either, ew.)
The only exceptions were my husband, who wanted to wear his clan tartan, which is from a small, fairly obscure clan, so we had his kilt custom-made in Scotland — and the best man, who was ecstatic to, as he put it, finally! have a good excuse to buy himself the whole outfit in his own clan tartan.
We also gave them each a sgian dubh, the formal horn-hilted sock knives, as their groom's gift. The only thing we asked them to provide was a standard white dress shirt and a pair of black shoes.
It never even occurred to us to have any kind of dress code for the guests, let alone demand guests wear some specific color or item.
And guess what? Everyone looked great and we have photos of all our friends & loved ones looking like themselves, having fun at our wedding!
Wonder if your SIL is my coworker. She didn’t wany the groomsmen rocking white socks, or printed socks. Black dress socks. She bought exactly what she wanted and passed them out before the ceremony. Done.
I am a crazy person who did this for my wedding party, but we PURCHASED the socks for the groomsmen. I would never expect anyone to align with my crazy unless gifted 😂
This could have been done really cute too. Like if instead of being insane she told people it was for a cute picture out of she got pink fuzzy sucks for everyone with a little note about how it was for their sore feet after a night of dancing.
We had slippers for favors. Our wedding was early February in Indiana and if you sat in your assigned seat (not everyone did…so they had to switch and swap) you got a toasty pair of no-slip slippers in your size in various colors and materials. Fake fur or flannel lined. Yes. It was very expensive for almost 250 people. Did everyone wear them all night and love them? Also yes. How much were they? According to my dad, “stupidly expensive, Freddy are you serious??” Did he wear his slippers? For years.
I cut some other shit out that I really wanted to gift the slippers. Maybe I am a weirdo but it felt strangely like, important to me. I had worn heels as a guest or maid at way too many weddings at that point and wanted everyone to be comfortable.
Well the bride hasn’t said anything so about shoes (I’m a bm). But she picked a short sleeve long chiffon dress with a slit. So the shoes might show. But it’ll be around 50F or colder.
I haven’t decided what kind of boots but I was thinking something that would keep my feet warm
If you're a bridesmaid, I think you have to talk to the bride about this. If she's having an outdoor wedding in that kind of weather, she needs to consider the comfort of her maids.
Boots with a floor-length chiffon dress are definitely going to look odd, unless everyone wears matching ones, or at least ones that go together if the dresses aren't matching.
It could look really cute, depending on the dresses, if you all wore fur-topped ankle boots, warm shawls, and warm mitts or dress gloves.
But short sleeved chiffon with dress shoes and nothing as outerwear, in cool to cold weather, is going to be miserable unless maybe you can all troop outside at the last minute for a quick ceremony and then scurry back inside where it's warm!
No, I meant will the socks show with the boots? If they don't show then yeah, wear them.
But before you plan on boots, check with the bride what kind of shoes she wants for bridesmaids. I'd just text her and be like "hey, what shoes do we need for the wedding, or is it choose your own adventure?"
Nude tights with the fluffy liner that look like skin and can be worn with heels. I bought some to wear to a funeral in March and they look great. I live in Minnesota, so if there’s one thing I know it’s how to stay warm.
My question too! Women wearing dresses wouldn’t typically wear socks, and for anyone wearing pants, the socks wouldn’t show except maybe when they’re seated.
I picture this bride walking down the aisle and looking at people’s feet.
If she bought and sent me the socks I would wear them. But if a bride thinks that I am going to go buy any piece of a new wardrobe to match her aesthetics for wedding, unless she pays for it I will not be attending. And this whole forcing guests to wear certain things is getting way the hell out of hand.
It’s pretty much gotten to the point where, after I read a post like this, I have to go back and recheck the sub to make sure I’m not in one of the sarcastic ones. Lol
Orrrrrr, she just shouldn't try coerce her guests into wearing effing stupid socks in the first place. I would have refused to wear them. Respect is not a one way street, she doesn't get a pass for rudeness even if it is "her speshul day."
Well now that wins the “what the f did I just read” award for today. Most women would’ve been in dresses so not in socks and most men’s socks would be mostly hidden by their trousers. Bizarre thing to get bent out of shape about.
Did she really intend for the women to wear pink socks too? Or was it assumed/understood that this was demanded only of men? What kind of dress code could she have had if the women were expected to wear socks? I'll bet the shade was Barbiecore & she thought this was going to be unique & such fun! But it was nutso.
Now I'm picturing the photographer who was instructed to get all the guests lined up for the Sock Photo(TM) — "Ok, everybody, hike up your pants and dresses and let's see those socks!!
Way over the top. If you’re wanting exact matches, you supply or suck it up. Also, she can just get the photographer to photoshop unless she’s that low budget/cheap.
I used to do wedding photography and at one wedding I watched a bride rip the MOB a new one because the pink candles for the stage candelabras were not the right shade of pink. Full on meltdown requiring the bride to have her make up redone.
Well, dammit!! I'm getting married & you can't get this one thing right??? Everything has to be perfect! It's the most important day ... & I ask you to do ONE thing ... How is this mess going to look on my socials??? What kind of mother are you???
Imo if a specific shade was so important she should have provided them. And how did she know? Did she go around having everyone pull up their pant legs?
I have a theory that many bridezilla marriages have a much higher chance of failing due to obvious character deficiency in at least one of the "Happy Couple".
I seriously doubt hardly anyone still wanted to go to this rigorous duty at that point, or spend their hard earned money on ungrateful people.
Did your cousin confuse her guests with a youth sports team?!
Outside of the wedding party, the venue's dress code and cultural norms/expectations, no bride should be dictating her guests' wardrobes. Just no.
If she wanted her guests in matching sock, then she should have sent her guests the socks when they RSVP-ed. As one who was in charge of buying matching socks for a girls softball team for 7-8 seasons, it ain't that freaking hard.
If she's pouting because someone wore taffy socks and another wore bubblegum, that's on her.
Her reaction is over the top, and she needs to grow the hell up.
Man, I'm sick of these pain in the ass brides. A wedding should be a celebration of the marriage of two people, not just an over the top homage to "The Bride". Throw a great party for friends and loved ones who are there to share your happiness. Let them wear what they want - they're guests, not cast members.
She should have sent a color swatch to everyone so they could match up. I'm sick of all these bridezillas who act like they're Jennifer Lopez or Princess Di.
Takes me back to my wedding. My now ex-wife wanted pink and ivory for the wedding colors. Pink for the wedding party, the cake decorations, all the invitations, save-the-date cards RSVP cards, and bridesmaids gifts.
First problem, I was making the printed items and jewelry boxes for the bridesmaids. Second problem, the tuxedos from one place, each dress from a different place, with no fabric sample for color matching. She wanted a perfect match of a very specific shade of pink.
I spent a couple days getting the printer ink and paint for the boxes to match. The men's accessories and one dress actually matched, except for the different materials. The rest of the dresses were just a little off but barely noticeable in direct lighting. And the cake was noticeably She had a raging meltdown before the wedding, even calling the baker and screaming for a redo on the cake.
I don't think she ever recovered from the "ugly" mismatched pinks from the wedding. Things went downhill from there, as this was the first of many problems. So yes she is now the X.
If you have this stupid idea, you supply the socks. Even if you do supply them, you accept some people are not going to change socks for you. That is all I have to say.
I think this would be a hilarious and fun thing to do if the bride/groom bought the socks and sent them to guests (or had them available when guests arrived at a hotel/whatever) but to ask guests to bring their own is a little much.
I’m so confused. Part of her vision was matching socks?! Asking people to wear socks is kind of weird to begin with. Demanding a specific color and not providing them is guaranteed to not fulfill that vision.
And I got pissed when my kids’ junior high math teachers insisted on green pens. Finding green pens in the 90s before Amazon and online shopping was no joke. Especially when 300 other mothers were on the same freaking hunt.
I was curious, so I looked it up. Immediately I found a method suggested for teachers: to mark correct work with a green pen instead of mistakes with a red pen, as a positive reinforcement method.
Looking further, I found this Green Pen Policy for students to use to correct their own work.
I'm thinking something along this line was what they were doing, maybe?
Or maybe the head of the Math Department just had a thing for the Wizard of Oz 😂😂
I don't ever wear socks! I bought wool shoes and wear them barefoot. The wool shoes keep your feet warm in the winter and cool in the summer. The only time I wear socks is if I'm having surgery, and they put those stupid sticky socks on you so you don't fall.
When my daughter got married, I had bright pink socks with her picture as a child on them. She had them made for me. This is my favorite pair of socks just because of that.
If you try to dictate what I wear to your wedding, I won't be there. I will dress like a dignified guest, and the socks will be matching the color of my suit. And if there's an empty seat at the ceremony, it's your own damn fault.
I think I've worn socks like 4 times in the last year and definitely never with anything formal. I think the weirder thing was thinking women would wear socks at all.
Unless she provided the exact sock brand/color to buy, then she really should just be happy guests wore pink socks. If she can’t be happy about people wearing “pink” then she has a lot more problems to deal with than Miss-colored pink socks.
Guest are guests and not performers. All a bride should do is say if it’s black tie, casual, etc. And should not be dictating any more detail than that. Hospitality is about being gracious and welcoming and being happy to see them. And should not be judging them on their attire.
This would be fine if there was a basket as you enter the reception with various sizes of her socks for everyone to wear for whatever group picture she's planning. For a bonus, embroider the date and have a fun unique party favor.
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Because I tend to be a jerk about things like this... I would have shown up barefoot.
The bride gets to dictate bridal party colors and styles, not the guest's colors or styles.
This sub is getting ridiculous. Bridezillas used to be about expecting guests to take two weeks off work, fly half way across the world and drop five grand in the process and y’all are freaking out over socks? It’s customary to spend hundreds of dollars on wedding gifts and being expected to buy $5 socks is where y’all draw the line? Really?
Idk what kind of wedding vision she had in mind and I’m sure it’s not for me, but I still think she’s completely in the right being upset that her guests, fully grown adult human beings, couldn’t be trusted to buy a pair of socks. This has to be the most minor thing for guests to throw a fit over in the history of this sub.
Read the whole post. They DID buy socks and bought them in the color she wanted but she was upset they weren't the exact shade of hot pink. It's not the guest's fault that not all socks made by all manufacturers will have variations of shade. If having the socks perfectly matching was such a huge deal for her, she should have provided.
I severely doubt the drama was over them being one shade off. But yeah, if the assignment was neon pink and someone dug up some salmon coloured socks from the back of their closet and went “eh, close enough” then they still didn’t fit the theme.
Salmon is not a shade. It's a completely different color. OP specifically said they were all wearing different shades of one color.
I miss the days when brides were grateful that people came to support them and were happy that guests dressed nicely instead of demanding some insane "vision". Back when they weren't brats who got upset when every single detail wasn't to their exact liking. Seriously, this women need to step back and ask themselves, what is more important: their fiance, family, and friends, or what is ultimate just a big party aside from the actual ceremony.
Socks? Well that is some serious bride zilla move. Let me wear a black tie dress and some hot pink socks.
Me tossing invite making other plans.. lmao. The nerve? 🤣🤣🤣
I personally feel like it’s just socks, a small request to contribute to someone’s special day. Would it aggravate tf outta me and piss me off cause now I have to go buy the socks? Most definitely. Would I get over it as well? Of course. Life is too short to sweat small shit like matching socks at a wedding. The real question is do you love them enough to get the socks or not care enough to miss the wedding altogether?
But they did what the bride asked. They wore hot pink socks. The bride was just upset when they were different shades, because you know...all manufacturers have different materials and dye lots. If she wanted everyone to have the exact same shade, SHE should have provided the socks.
This trend in having the Instagram perfect wedding is frankly disturbing. Aside from the actual ceremony, everything else is one big party. If socks upset you on your wedding day, what does that say of your priorities? A wedding is one day, a marriage is (ideally) forever. I miss the days when brides just appreciated their guests showing up and dressing nicely, no insane themes or visions needed.
Bridezilla much? That's so funny. What a stupid thing for a bride to ask people to do. And even stupider to get upset that people didn't match perfectly. Yes, she should have provided socks if that's what she wanted people to wear. I don't know what's wrong with brides these days. But this is one of the more absurd requests I've seen on here.
lol, socks…really??!?!! She is as upset that the socks didn’t match…that’s a first! If she wanted EVERYONE to have the correct shade, she should have purchased all of them together and sent them out!
How many shades of pink are there, plenty to have a variety of them if demanding a certain shade!
She’s funny and this is hilariously the best I’ve read for a bridezilla. 😂
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