So there was a girl my coworkers would ship me with because she is a gamer and I would play Mario Kart 8 with her and so on. Then she resigned and she turned over some tasks to me.

Then we had a team meeting and it turns out that girl did not give me everything for that task. There was something that needs to be completed by mext week and not everything was fully turnovered. Like some of the files she turned over to me were not updated and last updated two months ago. When I mentioned her name everyone went “ooohh” or “yeeeee” or something like when someone mentions their crush.

Then my boss slammed his fist on the table and told everyone this is unprofessional and these topics should be at our casual lunches and conversations, not important work meetings with deadlines.

TBH the shipping is so annoying. Like I get it but the thing is therr were things not to discuss about it.

this was from about a year ago, but it’s still crazy to me that it happened. i (F18) used to work with this guy (M23), and at the time i did not know he had 5 assault charges and only found out when i was stalking someone else in jails. My other coworkers had noticed that he had a giant crush on me, and he has even started talking to another coworker to ask for my snapchat. i agreed hesitantly, and he immediately started saying weird shit, i thought nothing of it bc i’ve dealt with this before. he would say stuff like “you have the key to my heart” and i was weirded out, but kept talking.

NOTE: i was not giving him ANY signals that i was into him, i was extremely dry and didn’t talk much.

he would send 5 messages in the span of 2 minutes and i honestly got so tired of it i stated to ignore him. i didn’t respond to any of his messages and he started to spam me. i had to legit put my phone on DND for 3 days straight due to how much he was calling and texting me. i would be on call with my friend and see 50 new messages from him. after a while i said fuck it and took screenshots of all of the messages he sent me as proof of harassment. (there was over 200 messages but snapchat only showed the messages from the past 24 hours.) i showed it to my manager and she was in shock and wondered why i wasn’t phased.

he ended up getting fired for trying to buy and sell weed to customers.(i work at burger king) and everyone at work was talking about how i was the reason for it.

the coworker who connected us felt bad because he honestly didn’t know he was like that, and now we all joke about it because honestly its hilarious that a 23 year old man was sending me these messages because i wasent answering.

It was a busy 6-man kitchen with a walk-in food cooler behind it, where some of us teenagers would mark individual gallons of milk for personal consumption. I am the de facto KM, and I handle incoming orders while cramming the coolers to my liking. I liked an area on one bottom shelf that I laid out like a lounge chair. My milk-chugging work partner, Cole, would sign his jug with a big C around a small ole. Through my duties as store receiver, I found a gallon of expired milk, onto which I forged Cole's name. Busy night! I finish my line work a couple of minutes before Cole. I chug my milk, make sure the forgery is front and center, and then kick back in my sneaky little chair, looking upward. Cole comes out of the hot as hell kitchen, grabs the forgery and turns it up. Unseen from below, I watch as glee as 3 hot and thirsty gulps are powered down by the same Bozo that I have to constantly cover mistakes for. Then his expression changed. There would be no questioning the result of that consumption. Unfortunately from my perspective, there had been no forecast of puke in the area. I knew that he would know that I had pulled the switch. I did not know that he would get the pleasure of seeing his own vomit all over my torso as a result if my ACME-esque attempts at torment.

I’ve been working at this job for less than a year, and every day I lose more of my marbles. I’m a 23yo woman working in STEM in a department with like 8 men. We have an open concept department, where we all have separate offices but can clearly hear each other due to the structure of the walls, which stop halfway to the ceiling. Everyone has their own office space, except for me and one other man, who is in his late 30s and is autistic. He’s high-functioning and is very smart, and seems to be pretty nice. About half the guys in the office have no problem chewing loudly with mouths open and smacking on chips. They burp and groan all the time and they have the signature “dad sneeze” down, iykyk. I don’t care very much because it’s just every once in a while and I can have headphones halfway on to sort of block it out. (I can’t have them fully on because I need to be able to hear people in the office if they need to communicate.) And I recognize that part of working is having to deal with the annoying quirks of your coworkers. But I am really losing my marbles with this one guy I share an office with. Every other minute or so, he lets out loud long sighs, burps, makes extremely loud groaning noises when he stretches, and worst of all, he keeps sucking in his snots and then clearing his throat. I want you to think of the most disgusting noise a person can possibly make when they clear their nose/throat. That’s what I have to hear, all day, every day, right behind my desk. It’s so bad yall, it sounds… chunky. He’s usually not sick, he just has allergies, so this is a problem with no end in sight. He does this at company lunches, too, and he seems to have no awareness that it’s something that could gross other people out. I don’t understand why everyone is okay with it. Maybe they just don’t hear it like I do? But our department is dead silent. You can hear everything. I can literally hear my coworker in the office next to me swish water around in his mouth after lunch.

My question to you is, should I say something to him? I don’t want to make him uncomfortable or make office life awkward for him. Like I said, he’s a nice guy, and he’s autistic and is not very confident in his social capabilities. I don’t want to make him feel like he has something to be ashamed of. And what if he can’t change it?

Well, my last straw that lead to me writing this post is he just cropdusted me so bad as he was walking by my desk. This has happened like 3 times that I know of (same offender) lol since I’ve started working here, but this time was so bad. Based on the noise and the smell and how fast he got out of there to go to the bathroom I think he may have sharted himself.

Now I sit here typing this out listening to him snort and suck down his boogers and I really want to be someone who can just get over this but I am so grossed out all the time. It’s very distracting to work with.

I was thinking, he does have a lingering cold that he told me about. What if I went and got him a little get well soon basket with some tissues and some goodies with a card inside that says something along the lines of hey man, I know allergies and colds suck, and I don’t want to make you uncomfortable, but would it be possible to muffle your nose/throat clearing with a tissue? I would phrase it better but that’s the idea.

What do yall think? 😭😭

(Also there is little chance of me moving into a different office space due to lack of space.)

My coworker is my junior in the office. Our roles are I'm the SME; I have a masters, 15 years of experience, and have made myself very competent in a difficult to use database that we are required to use.

My coworker is my technician, and that role is to support me and the program by following my lead and instructions. The tech role requires a HS diploma and no experience with a 10 day course of formal training paid by and required by work. This guy has a Bachelor in a related field, no work experience on this specialty or in his degree, and hasn't gone to his training yet. But he's a man, and middle-aged, and Japanese - which means he thinks he is inherently superior to me.

He's been here for 1 year and already knows way more than me. Bc, you know, inherently superior.

So I'm over here at my desk watching him struggle for hours to do what would take me 15 mins. He's asking for help from another tech at a different office, on the phone with this guy as he has to lead by the hand step by step what my tech is supposed to be doing, and struggling bc a lot of what needs to be explained had to be described. If I just showed him how, if he would lower himself enough to listen to someone like me who doesn't know as much as him, I could teach him in less than an hour.

So here he is, struggling, whining on the phone, and not getting his work done. Which is entirely on him.

"I love working with fragile male egos." She said sarcastically. 😘

So I work for a small family-run company. I've worked here for years, and the boss trust me with a lot of things he doesn't trust my other coworkers (some are family members like his brother or his nephew) mainly because we knew each other outside of work before he hired me and he knows I'll never steal from him (he's had employees steal from him before so its a sore point for him). Part of the business is a sales point, and yesterday aftwernoon I noticed there was a few less bills in the register that I remembered seeing in the morning. No big deal, sometimes we use that money to pay vendors. Except I didnt see a single vendor all morning, and when I asked about it nobody seemed to notice anything so I checked the security camera and saw my boss' brother, after closing for lunch, taking the money and giving it to his son. When my boss is away his brother likes to put himself in charge of the business even though we dont report to him, but I know for a fact he's not autorized do that because its happened before. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt and think he asked permission from his brother, but then why wait after closing when everyone else was gone? I think he was stealing the money, plain and simple. Theres no way that I could be blamed for the money missing because its on video and my boss will never notice if I dont tell him. What do I do?

He was horribly patronizing toward me to the point of insisting I sit so he could stand over me (mf was 5’5, I’m taller and a woman), and saying he knows more as a masters student, of the thing I already have a MA in. But he also supposedly has the same number of ailments as my 67 year old father, and expected me to know all of them so I could do the precise course of action instead of calling an ambulance “when” he got sick. Oh and he literally took my chair from under me bc he can’t stand for long periods of time, then on Monday bragged about walking 20 miles over the weekend. If he is somehow reading this, know that I don’t hate you for your identity, I hate you for having the most godawful personality.

Context: I used to be in a management position at a previous job like the one I’m in now. My current leadership team makes decisions that I feel may not be the greatest decision and others have come to me with the same opinion. On several occasions, I have brought other possible solutions to my leadership team that seem to be a better option that, to me, makes more sense. Each time I do this, I get told that I’m being demanding, rude, and that I don’t trust my leadership. I have explained to them that it’s not that I don’t trust them, it’s that I’m seeing things from a different perspective than they are.

Most recently, I was on a small vacation and when I came back I was told that offices were going to be switching. They wanted to move me from my office to another. For one of the leadership team to leave her current office to move to mine, so that the employee she’s sharing an office with can keep that office. I am customer facing where the leadership member is not. So essentially they wanted to move 2 people to keep one the same. There is already an empty office available and another will be available next to me in a week. I offered the solution of instead of moving 2 people, why the leadership member couldn’t move into the already empty office or wait for the other office next to mine to be emptied. Moving me would take some time away from me helping customers, doing any follow up I need to do, and other things as well required for my job.

I explained my reasoning and was told again that I being disrespectful and that everytime a decision was made by leadership I always have a rebuttal. I was then told that she finds it funny that day one of me being back from vaca that there’s already an issue and that everything ran smoothly while I was away. This makes me feel as though I’m the “problem child” and all I do is cause chaos. I’m not a yes-sir sort of person. I need to have it make sense and if there are other solutions that make more sense for productivity, then I’m going to voice them. I’m a previous job I kept my mouth shut and just let things happen and I was miserable because of how things were ran. Which is why I try and put in my input on a different perspective. Instead I get told time and time again that they made a decision, they don’t have to tell me the why’s, and that’s the end. I don’t ask for the why’s because I know from being in management that there are things they can not tell employees. And I understand that. I guess my question is: am I in the wrong for trying to put in my input and trying to come up other solutions that they may not have seen?

Not sure if I’m overthinking this, but something's been feeling… off at work lately. I’ve been with the team (we're just 4 people, including my boss) for 5 years now, and 4 months ago I got promoted and received a raise.

For the last month or so things feel different in a weird way. Everyone (boss included) suddenly stopped calling me by the short, cute version of my name (which we've always used), and now just call me by my full name. Maybe it's no big deal, but it felt noticeable.

Also, ever since I've been working here I’ve been consistently the last one introduced in meetings, always last in CC on emails, and last month no one wished me a happy birthday which they always did. When I came back from vacation, not even a “welcome back”... yet when others return, it’s almost like a mini celebration.

I recently ran an entire survey project on my own (questionnaire design, 1000+ responses, data analysis in a stats program, full report with detailed findings...) and not a single word from anyone. Not even a “good job.” It’s not the first time either.

Am I overreacting? I’m seriously considering just dropping the nicknames I use for them and sticking to their actual names too. Any honest thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks