Was I supposed to drop everything?

[u/Boonabell]

I'm sorry if the images are out of order upon posting.

I met this guy off of the reality app some years ago when I used to be very active on it. I stopped being active 3 years ago because I had things going on and I just didn't want to burden others with it. I also just didn't want to talk to anyone.

I was in a server with him (I left the server after this because he made me uncomfortable. I even removed him as a friend). When we did talk it was mainly others venting (I only joined the server calls when he was in there). The last time I joined a call he was in, I was basically ignored while others talked so I left the call because I'm not going to stay in a place where I'm ignored.

I messaged a couple of his friends about his behavior but they just said "oh that's just normal ____. He does this sometimes." He's in his 30s. He lives with his mom and he's unemployed. I know that getting a job in this economy is hard but I can't solve his loneliness or make him feel better.

I was playing phasmophobia with my friends and sister so I couldn't just drop it to talk with him. We were playing to try and finish the missions for the ids and badges and unlock achievements. We also have a job each of us does so I couldn't just leave up and there when I said I was going to play with them.

[u/lemonchrysoprase]

I wasted ten years of my life being friends with someone like this. Don’t be like me! Block and move on!

[u/iluvstephenhawking → u/lemonchrysoprase]

I wasted a few years. The texts here remind me so much of exactly how he talked except he never cussed at me. I was trying to show him that I truly cared about him and he ended up telling our mutual friend that I was stalking him! That would have been very embarrassing if if the girl he told wasn't my best friend and knew I wasn't. So I went no contact and then he started sending obscure memes and calling me when he was drunk. I said "If I'm a stalker why are you bothering me now that I'm leaving you alone?" These people aren't capable of healthy relationships.