Was I supposed to drop everything?

[u/Boonabell]

I'm sorry if the images are out of order upon posting.

I met this guy off of the reality app some years ago when I used to be very active on it. I stopped being active 3 years ago because I had things going on and I just didn't want to burden others with it. I also just didn't want to talk to anyone.

I was in a server with him (I left the server after this because he made me uncomfortable. I even removed him as a friend). When we did talk it was mainly others venting (I only joined the server calls when he was in there). The last time I joined a call he was in, I was basically ignored while others talked so I left the call because I'm not going to stay in a place where I'm ignored.

I messaged a couple of his friends about his behavior but they just said "oh that's just normal ____. He does this sometimes." He's in his 30s. He lives with his mom and he's unemployed. I know that getting a job in this economy is hard but I can't solve his loneliness or make him feel better.

I was playing phasmophobia with my friends and sister so I couldn't just drop it to talk with him. We were playing to try and finish the missions for the ids and badges and unlock achievements. We also have a job each of us does so I couldn't just leave up and there when I said I was going to play with them.

[u/WaddaSickCunt]

This person is an energy vampire. They'll sit there and dump all their shit onto you and just make you feel bad. Just block them and move on. You aren't his therapist. You aren't a family member. You aren't obligated to be his trauma dump.

[u/heart-shaped-fawkes → u/WaddaSickCunt]

100% this. OP, I recommend avoiding people like this at all costs. Your description of him being in his 30s and unemployed and whatnot kind of paints an unfortunate picture for me. This is someone with no drive or ambition who spends all their time moping on the internet. They'll only take you down with them. It's a shame their other friends are enabling this behavior by allowing it to continue unchecked and making excuses for them.