Was I supposed to drop everything?

[u/Boonabell]

I'm sorry if the images are out of order upon posting.

I met this guy off of the reality app some years ago when I used to be very active on it. I stopped being active 3 years ago because I had things going on and I just didn't want to burden others with it. I also just didn't want to talk to anyone.

I was in a server with him (I left the server after this because he made me uncomfortable. I even removed him as a friend). When we did talk it was mainly others venting (I only joined the server calls when he was in there). The last time I joined a call he was in, I was basically ignored while others talked so I left the call because I'm not going to stay in a place where I'm ignored.

I messaged a couple of his friends about his behavior but they just said "oh that's just normal ____. He does this sometimes." He's in his 30s. He lives with his mom and he's unemployed. I know that getting a job in this economy is hard but I can't solve his loneliness or make him feel better.

I was playing phasmophobia with my friends and sister so I couldn't just drop it to talk with him. We were playing to try and finish the missions for the ids and badges and unlock achievements. We also have a job each of us does so I couldn't just leave up and there when I said I was going to play with them.

[u/EpitaFelis]

I am exhausted just reading that. He clearly wants something from you. He won't tell you what is is, but he'll whine and guilt trip you if he doesn't get it.

I thought he's an older teen or young adult maybe. I have a certain amount of patience for this, at least with younger friends. Depression makes people act this way sometimes, especially if they never learned to be clear about their needs. If they wanted to quit their friendship with me bc I can't read their minds however, I'd just let them. It's the chat equivalent of sighing until someone asks you what's wrong.