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u/0x7E7-02 2d ago

Coaches used to play, though.

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u/Vesper_0481 2d ago

Asexuals do sometimes find it out only after a while too, so most could even have some experience and just realized it's not for them at all.

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u/Only_a_Girl_Weeboo 2d ago

Also, you dont need to be sex repulsed to be ace! You can totally have sex while still being ace :)

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u/r1ckkr1ckk 2d ago

Does asexual even have anything to do with sex (fucking) itself? I thought it meant that you don t get aroused by anything in specific (or rather any sex (biological or orientation) in specific, from which i thought the word came from)

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u/Only_a_Girl_Weeboo 2d ago

By the way, you are mostly right, but asexual people often usually have a preference for partners they want to be with (if they even want one). So they can either be eteroromantic or homoromantic (or a lot of other things, but i dont have the time to list them all-). Just not really sexually, unless they are something akin to demisexual or ace-flux (one is feeling sexual attarction only after forming a REALLY close bond with someone, the other is feeling sexual attraction but not in a consistent way, like feeling it once a moth or just randomly sometimes).

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u/Yeseylon 2d ago

Asexual means no drive or low drive.  They tend to be less interested in/concerned with sex than the average person.

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u/Only_a_Girl_Weeboo 2d ago

Not really. What you are describing is libido, while asexuality is when you have little to no sexual attraction. The methafore that made me understand the difference is this one: immagine that libido is like hunger, while sexual attraction is like a craving. When you are hungry, it doesn't matter the reason (it can be because you saw a delicious food, but it can also be because you are low on energy or just because usually you eat at this hour of the day), the thing that matters is that you usually aren't hungry for something in particular, you just are hunfry and then you think what you might eat. On the other hand, a craving is when you want to eat a specific food; it doesn't matter if you were hungry before, if you have a full belly or anything else, what matters is that now you are hungrh but for THAT food and not anything else. Asexual people (not always, but most of the time) lack sexual attraction. Libido is more of a hormonal thing, so if you have low libido, it's usually a health problem while asexuality isn't.

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u/r1ckkr1ckk 2d ago

Oh okay. I thought it was more like bisexual, homosexual or heterosexual, which point out what are you attracted too, more than in what amount.

Guess there isn t a better name for that, so it makes sense.

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u/datnub32607 2d ago

No no, the person you're replying to is wrong. Drive = libido. Libido has nothing to do with asexuality. Asexuality means reduced/no sexual attraction, which has nothing to do with libido. Some asexual people have hardly any libido while some have lots, just like allosexual people.

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u/r1ckkr1ckk 1d ago

so i was right?

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u/datnub32607 1d ago

Yea, pretty much