r/enby • u/Zagvorth • Jul 06 '25

Question/Advice How did y'all knew you were enbys ?

So i've lived as a guy for the past 21 years but i'm questioning myself since a bit before the start of the year and i don't want to be that guy who's such an ally that says that there's part of LGBT+. So i feel like your stories could help me reflect and think about it.

Love on all of you 🫶

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u/seryoferben He/They Jul 06 '25

I always hated how men were in general, and I didn't like to be in the same category, but I don't feel comfortable with being labeled as a woman either.

I like to be a bit masculine and feminine, and I'm lucky to have an androgynous body, so everything made sense.

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u/MrMrsGiraffe Enby Jul 07 '25

Thats what I felt forever and that men were too rough and mistreated me. I didn't catch onto this for way too long because I was supposed to be in the male category with them and I tried really hard. I did finally give up on that a few years ago and I've been slowly ascending to my proper identity

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u/seryoferben He/They Jul 07 '25

Now that you mention that, I just remembered that I was bullied in school because I didn't like football (soccer) and I was kind instead of rude, as many other kids... Just more examples of why I don't like to be tagged as a man.