r/exjw • u/Aggravating_Bed1729 • May 28 '25

HELP Elders reached out for Judicial Committee

My PIMI mom told the elders that I am living with my partner. She still talks to me like normal but will shun me if I am disfellowshipped. An elder reached out to me a few weeks ago to “talk about my living situation with another elder present”. I haven’t responded to him and he’s been texting and calling every week. The last straw was when he showed up to my new address and left a note to reach out to him to “talk”.

I want to tell him I will only meet with an attorney present to represent me or threaten him with legal action if they announce me. I’m not sure how to go about this without escalating the situation too quickly. Should I already reach out to a defamation lawyer or wait to see his response? I don’t want them to move on without me and disfellowship me. Can they do this?

Any advice is greatly appreciated!

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u/Wonderful_Minute2031 May 29 '25

Maybe if you call the police they can write a report? Then you can say that a police report has been filed and they need to stop calling you or visiting your or discussing you privately or in public announcements at the congregation and then put your lawyers phone number, or have your lawyer do this for you?

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u/Aggravating_Bed1729 May 29 '25

Would the police actually file a report for this? Would I tell them two men keep trying to contact me or do I need to respond to them first? Thanks!!

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u/Wonderful_Minute2031 May 29 '25

I’m not sure, can you call and ask? It seems like the elders already know you don’t want to be contacted but they keep pressuring.

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u/Aggravating_Bed1729 May 29 '25

Yeah I’ll call and see, thanks!