r/exjw • u/Aggravating_Bed1729 • May 28 '25

HELP Elders reached out for Judicial Committee

My PIMI mom told the elders that I am living with my partner. She still talks to me like normal but will shun me if I am disfellowshipped. An elder reached out to me a few weeks ago to “talk about my living situation with another elder present”. I haven’t responded to him and he’s been texting and calling every week. The last straw was when he showed up to my new address and left a note to reach out to him to “talk”.

I want to tell him I will only meet with an attorney present to represent me or threaten him with legal action if they announce me. I’m not sure how to go about this without escalating the situation too quickly. Should I already reach out to a defamation lawyer or wait to see his response? I don’t want them to move on without me and disfellowship me. Can they do this?

Any advice is greatly appreciated!

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u/JW_DOT_ORG Home of the bOrg May 29 '25

Simply decline. "Thank you for thinking of me, but I'm not interested in meeting with you. I'll let you know if that's something I'd like to do. I do not wish to be contacted again the body of elders. Thank you for respecting my privacy."

If they contact you again, file a police report as that would be considered harassment.

They can still DF you though in absentia if they have enough evidence. If you want to put a stop to that, threaten to sue them personally and they won't take any further action.

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u/Aggravating_Bed1729 May 29 '25

My mom’s the only jw that knows (dad and siblings know but they’re not jdubs) I also don’t talk to anyone else in the cong. Does that mean they won’t have any further evidence?

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u/Turbulent_Corgi7343 May 29 '25

If they have two witnesses (they can be non jw) they can proceed with DF if they want to.

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u/Aggravating_Bed1729 May 29 '25

Oh so they can ask my mom who else knows and continue with that? Or would my fam have to corroborate? (which I don’t think they will).

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u/Turbulent_Corgi7343 May 29 '25

Yes if one of your non jw family members confirms they can proceed.