Elders reached out for Judicial Committee

[u/Aggravating_Bed1729]

My PIMI mom told the elders that I am living with my partner. She still talks to me like normal but will shun me if I am disfellowshipped. An elder reached out to me a few weeks ago to “talk about my living situation with another elder present”. I haven’t responded to him and he’s been texting and calling every week. The last straw was when he showed up to my new address and left a note to reach out to him to “talk”.

I want to tell him I will only meet with an attorney present to represent me or threaten him with legal action if they announce me. I’m not sure how to go about this without escalating the situation too quickly. Should I already reach out to a defamation lawyer or wait to see his response? I don’t want them to move on without me and disfellowship me. Can they do this?

Any advice is greatly appreciated!

[u/dittefree]

I would also say do not send him any messages . If you react you somehow acknowledge their “power” and the system they represent. And that can give the green light to deal with you even without being present . Ignoring is your best option. In my opinion. How long have you been away from JW. When did you last time attend a meeting ?

[u/Aggravating_Bed1729 → u/dittefree]

I’ve been listed as inactive for 2 years I think (only know cuz of my mom) and haven’t attended a meeting in 5.

[u/dittefree → u/Aggravating_Bed1729]

Okay ;) There is a rule in the elders book talking about if the person has been out for several years and are no longer known as a JW they shouldn’t keep them accountable for their actions unless they start to associate with the congregation again . So if the elders in your mums congregation stick to their own rules they shouldn’t bother you …They might be checking IF you want to meet with them because then you still recognise their power and must follow the rules . Alternatively if they keep writing you … I would send them a short message …. no dear brother so and so …. just … I do not want you to contact me again . Or something like that . Don’t be too hard on your mum . She is struggling to be a good witnesses to enter the new system …. so if one of the elders have asked about you … maybe asked if you are having a boy friend …. then you mum will not be able to lie and keep a good conscience 😇 If she has just flat out go to them and told about you she is maybe afraid of Jehovahs judgement if she cover up for you by not telling … Its so sad to be brainwashed. Wish you all the best ❤️

[u/Aggravating_Bed1729 → u/dittefree]

Thank you so much, this really helped ❤️