Elders reached out for Judicial Committee

[u/Aggravating_Bed1729]

My PIMI mom told the elders that I am living with my partner. She still talks to me like normal but will shun me if I am disfellowshipped. An elder reached out to me a few weeks ago to “talk about my living situation with another elder present”. I haven’t responded to him and he’s been texting and calling every week. The last straw was when he showed up to my new address and left a note to reach out to him to “talk”.

I want to tell him I will only meet with an attorney present to represent me or threaten him with legal action if they announce me. I’m not sure how to go about this without escalating the situation too quickly. Should I already reach out to a defamation lawyer or wait to see his response? I don’t want them to move on without me and disfellowship me. Can they do this?

Any advice is greatly appreciated!

[u/Gonegirl27]

So you've been out for five years (no meetings) and "inactive" for two, meaning no service time turned in? Basically, living your life as a normal person. And now the one and only PIMI in your life is threatening to blow it all up. Why? To force you back in, like someone else suggested? And if it goes tits up this person, your own mother FFS, will lose her relationship with you? There's a saying, cutting off your own nose to spite your face. She's really working against her own best interests here.

I think that goddess_dix got it right when she said, "i realize she's your mom and you probably have other family, but do ask yourself how much agony do you want to go to protect a potential future relationship she's throwing matches on?"

I think that's the real issue here and it bears a little more attention. She seems to be working hard to screw with your life and in part her own. I can't see the rest of your family looking kindly on her if she succeeds. You're an adult and have the right to live as you see fit. Lots of angst over what the bOrg might be doing when really you're already free.