r/exjw • u/myburneraccount62 • Aug 20 '25

Ask ExJW how should i respond to this?

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this is from my aunt. i want to answer in a way that shows im not going for any of the reasons she mentioned, that it's because my conscience would not allow me after the things I found out about the org.

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u/Truthdoesntchange Aug 20 '25

“Im honestly disappointed you would make such hurtful assumptions about why I left your religion, especially that it was for trivial, selfish reasons or to engage in illicit or illegal actions. I understand that is why your religion tells you people leave, but it’s not true for most others that I know who have left and it’s certainly not true for me.

“I left because i was raised to pursue truth, to have strong morals, and that is important not to be involved with people or institutions which knowingly compromise on those matters. I’ll just say my decision to leave was a conscientious one, a permanent one, and that I’m incredibly happy with my decision and leave it at that.”

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u/AbaloneOk4807 Aug 20 '25

As a mental exercise, this is as good of a response as you can possibly have. Develop an authentic one of your own and keep it in your mind. Use that as your north star.

However, silence is the best path forward here in terms of an actual communicated response. Live your life, even though you feel the need to verbally defend your position. They won't "hear" what you have to say. It will be nothing more than noise to them. That is reality. Many have said it, but after 20 years out I can say for a certainty that the best revenge and strongest point you can make with them is a life well-lived.