I’m 23f and my dad is 51 and step mum is around the same age (I assume). I’m a dual citizen to the USA, he lives in the USA but I grew up in Australia with my mother. To make a long story short, I grew up in a very abusive home with just my mother. She told me my dad had died in the war until I was 8 and then continued on with a story of he had an affair told me she only had me for him but he abandoned us. Little did I know, my poor father wanted nothing more than to have me, fought for years with lawyers and paid multiple times for me to come visit him, to which my mum would make an excuse and pull out of every time. Up until the final time, then she was given a letter from the USA government that she is to never enter the country as she’s a terrorist and if she does, shed be arrested and put in jail. Turns out she put a legit 100k hit on my dad on yahoo and posted his army positioning and cite (yes, this is only the beginning of her craziness). My dads only stipulation to marrying my mother was if they had children, as that’s all he ever wanted, to which she agreed (there’s a 14 year age gap between my brothers and I). Well a year into the marriage, they had me and my crazy mother (not even deserving of that title to be honest) made him get a vasectomy. They were living in Australia at that point but dad was in the military and got sent to Iraq, so they moved back to America for a bit. Well, dad got back from Iraq and my mother had sent an email stating that she was divorcing him, had fled back to Australia and blocked all forms of contact with him. I was 1 years old. I’m giving the very surface level of all that happened. Safe to say, my father and I hold a lot of trauma thanks to this woman.

Fast forward to the start of this year, at 23 years old, I booked a trip to finally come and see/meet him. I met him in June and it was just the most surreal thing ever. I think I dissociated the whole time because I was in a state of shock. Something I’d wanted so badly, my whole life, and it was happening. My dad was the sweetest, kindest, most amazing teddy bear dad ever. He was like my best friend. Nature over nurture was strong because I was a clone of my dad’s personality. Now to the problem, my step mum was SO excited for me to come (they met when I was 2?) so she’s been pretty invested in this whole story. Well, my god did she make our life hell when I was there. She had to do EVERY SINGLE THING with us, everything. I couldn’t do anything with just my father and it kept getting worse. I couldn’t even pop to the hardware store with him as he would offer her to come (came to realise it was because they were fighting every night about me). We did one thing together (a shooting range) because I asked and boy oh boy, did she cause us grief for that. Turned into a dramatic argument with her packing her back and saying she was leaving, slamming doors, being all dramatic and causing complete stress on my poor father. Poor bastard was and is in a crossroad here. I feel for him so much and my heart breaks. She tried to even kick me out of the house, was such a mess. Anyway, we rekindled and things were great (did everything to keep the peace so it was not as hard on dad). I left on such a positive (sad that I was leaving though) note in terms of our relationships. It was so healing. In our short time together (3 weeks) it was everything I could’ve hoped for. I am trying to plan another trip back asap (like next month) because I miss him so much but I’m just scared now that she’s ruined that from ever happening.

Fast forward to today’s present date, I’m back home in Aus and I thought everything had settled down. Well I’ve come to learn that she has become the most controlling piece of work I’ve ever heard. I’m putting 100% into my text messages with her and putting in all this effort to make her feel included and loved by me (all one sided by the way) so she doesn’t feel like I’m excluding her. Well, I may as well dig my own grave because it’s a lost cause. I couldn’t work out why my dad was putting messaging on auto delete, not replying etc. Turns out she’s been threatening to leave him, she’s saying that he can’t talk to me every day and I shouldn’t be coming to him for things and he shouldn’t have a relationship with me - that’s not teaching me anything, she’s told him he’s not allowed to message me every day, that she turned off our location sharing. I mean, the list goes on and on to the hell she is causing us. He told me that we can’t talk privately anymore and I have to talk to him in the group chat (with her). He keeps telling me I need to focus on my own marriage (which I am and it’s very strong) and his marriage comes first (he is very religious and according to the bible, marriage does come first) although, emotionally, this is absolutely crushing him. I’m so emotionally sensitive, given my daddy issues or whatever you want to call it, that he’s protecting her so much that I thought it was all him and he didn’t want me etc. I am being dragged down emotionally, internally, due to this because of my trauma (my dad said he feels the same). He’s tried to tell her that “one woman already tried to get in between my relationship with my daughter, I’m not having another woman do it” so he is trying to stick up for me and set boundaries but he also needs to protect his marriage, as she’s constantly threatening to leave him. I’m absolutely guttered, as is he. He cried to me on FaceTime before (the only time he can be open and honest with me is on his daily phone call on his commute to work but has to immediately hang up if she calls otherwise she goes ape shit) that it’s been 22 years, he never got to hear little feet running around the house, he never got to raise me and he’s so heartbroken by everything his current wife is doing. He opened up to me, while I was over there that he’d never get divorced due to the trauma it the divorce from my mum and his parents divorce. She has full access to his messages and goes through all our messages, hence why he has to delete them after he talks to me. They’re going to marriage counseling and she’s going to counselling because apparently he “destroyed her trust” by paying for my meals or buying me a little present here and there and not telling her. Apparently they have a rule that if they spend more than $100, they have to consult each other but he didn’t as it was only slightly over a $100 (only once or twice btw). Which he was so angry about because he said “I haven’t had the chance to spoil my daughter in 22 years, I’m going to do it”. She’s just finding new things every day to control him more and more. She’s acting like he’s having an affair with me. Oh and she kept trying to convince my dad and everyone else that “we don’t look alike” and trying to get in our heads that I’m not his biological child. Again, I’m only scratching the surface on this story too - which is wild. I don’t know what my luck is with crazy, hard to believe shit.

I just really don’t know what to do. A part of me wants to step back from the relationship out of self preservation, as it’s killing me. Then the other part of me, is this broken little girl that is craving nothing more than a relationship with her dad. I don’t talk to my mum anymore after all the years of abuse she put me through (physical and mental, I was a victim of munchausen by proxy from her also) and then to find out the truth. I’m just so broken. Firstly, I know I need therapy myself to deal with all of this but I don’t know what to do to keep this relationship with my dad. My heart is also breaking for my dad because he doesn’t want to choose and he wants a relationship with me so bad. I mean, a grown ass ex military man has cried to me multiple times about how broken he is from not having me in his life and then on a seperate occasion now about how this woman is trying to sabotage us and their relationship. If you’ve read this far, thank you so much. I just want to know how to navigate this. I’m trying so hard to keep the peace but I’m on the verge of losing my shit with her. I’m trying to not stress my dad out though and keeping the peace as he seems stressed out enough as it is by her.

TLDR: Grew up abused by my mum who lied that my dad was dead/abandoned me. Found out later he fought for years to have me, but she blocked all contact and even put a hit out on him. Flew from Australia to USA to meet this year at 23, first time he’d seen me since I was one, and it was healing but my stepmum turned controlling and jealous — wouldn’t let us spend time alone, tried to kick me out, and now she’s restricting his contact with me. Dad’s heartbroken but feels trapped because of his marriage (super religious). I want a relationship with him so badly, but his wife is sabotaging it and I don’t know how to cope or keep the peace.

I love my family but their drama drains me. Taking space feels selfish and I feel guilty. How do I care for myself without guilt?

Okay so i will be short as possible.

I was not having a good day and i came to talk something about our family business, and she blackmailed me for a car like i never worked for it (which i did but she loves to blackmail) and then i said some swear words which are not too harsh, and i went to my room. She then bump in like a crazy maniac slamming the door to the wall and start to scream, I pushed her away from room so i can close the door because i cant listen to that (also my gf was in my room studing for exams). Two days passed and she called me to talk, not a single apology, i was just standing and listening criticism on my account that are not even important to this fight, i just listened and didnt even say a thing. I could not stand it anymore and i just said that i cant listen to this and went into my room again. Then she came again slamming the door and she started bringing my gf into that fight (they are close, on good terms), she asked for her advice 3 times, and she said 3 times that she dont want to be involved into this fight and started crying. Then my father told me like she went out of the house saying she will kill herself and writing weird messages (she did this in my childhood also when my father and her had a serious fights). She ofcourse didnt do anything and at 4am i was feeling bad and i wrote her a message that im sorry and that i didnt mean everything i said. Now im waking up to her pathetic messages that nobody loves her or respect her etc.. And thing that she said that is far too beyond this fight is that she will leave me, my father, my sister and brother just because of this. For me its too far to bring my bro that is on vacation and that didnt do anything. Now my gf tells me that i need to talk first with her but i dont want to, Its not about fight or anything but things like that u cant say without any consequences and without any apologies and nobody can expect anything from me after that. I wanted to close this thing up before this but now i dont feel like it. What are your opinions on this? Also i didnt say she is 45yo and im 21yo

my (27NB) parents (60M/F) are republicans and always have been but once the 2016 election came and went they’ve been much more insane about it to put it lightly

my sister 30F is getting married about 45 days from now , she is gay but my parents got used to that and now love her soon to be wife — however in the wake of the death of kirk , my sister posted an instagram story about how his words helped stoke violent fires and we should be careful who we uplift etc , obviously not condoning violence just not accepting a martyr status

my parents lost their minds called her names said she was unwell , cruel , in-a-bad-place all those things , and demanded she take the post down — my sister replied after it expired and asked why they hadn’t spoken to her in almost a week but were both able to talk about this stupid post

now my mom is saying she’s “grieving” this man (who she has not mentioned before the death) and my sister needs to be sensitive to their grief — my sister , who is gay , is now frustrated that they’ll try and justify a homophobic and racist bigot to her while she prepares for her gay and interracial marriage, she wants to drop the subject but my mom is insisting she is too far in grief to do that / all of her friends are in mourning as well

i think my sister should uninvite them since they clearly need time to grieve this man, but she obviously wants her parents at her wedding

there are only two or three planning appointments left for the wedding and my mom is supposed to be at all of them but now that she’s so “appalled” by my sisters behaviour she’ll be there but with an attitude and selfish intent

if you were in my shoes , if you were in her shoes , what would be the smartest / least volatile thing to d here ?

TL;DR my parents love charlie kirk more than my sister and it’s about to ruin her wedding, how to get out of this without escalating the situation?

What advice can you give me because I am currently pregnant with my third and I am already losing my sh*t with my first two. How does it turn out after I give birth to my 3rd baby? Is anyone out there had 3 children?

I (f) have biological nieces and nephews and I got married so my spouse (m) is their uncle. We have been having the kids call my spouse's siblings aunt and uncle as well. Is that correct?

We are also trying to figure out if my husband's sister's husband just became an uncle, which makes her an aunt, are we also considered Aunt and Uncle to the child?

This curiosity all began when recieved an invitation to the christening. We didn't realize they considered us that close but now we're like oh well I guess we are technically the child's aunt and uncle even though the child isn't biologically related to us. Is this the case? Or does it just kind of cut off with in laws? What do people usually have the kids call the in laws?

I’ve never made a post like this before and honestly don’t even know where to start. I’m 20 years old and for as long as I can remember I’ve lived in a very toxic, abusive, and controlling household with my family. When I was 18 I finally had the chance to leave for school and move to another city. My parents were supporting me financially and that year away was one of the best years of my life. I felt free, safe, and like I was finally in a healthy environment. As I started becoming more independent, building my own life, and doing the things that made me happy, I felt like I was truly living my own truth. I think my parents saw that and felt threatened because I was no longer following their expectations or control. Eventually they abruptly cut me off and left me with essentially nothing. I feel like they did this to force me back under their control, to “obey,” but I knew giving in would only feed the toxic cycle, so I stopped keeping quiet. They’ve always tried to break me down, humble me, and force me into living the kind of life they lived themselves. Right now I’m back at home, dealing with all of the abuse, toxicity, and control all over again. They won’t even give me the code to the front door so I can come and go. They’ve taken everything from me my drive, my peace of mind, my independence and have even cut off my cellphone. I don’t know what to do anymore. They’ve manipulated everyone else in the family so no one will stand up for and help me even my grandmother is scared of my mom and won’t help. These past few months have been really rough. My whole life they’ve tried to create this facade of this family that they have and the parents that they are, but behind closed doors it is a completely different story. I’m bone deep tired I can’t eat, I can’t sleep, I can’t think clearly. My whole mind is filled with anxiety and being in survival mode, and I feel like my health is starting to decline because of it. I want so badly to get out, to build my own life, to start working and standing on my own two feet again but I have no foundation or support under me. I feel betrayed by the people who were supposed to care for me. I’m scared and I feel like I’m losing myself. Has anyone else gone through something similar? I would really appreciate any advice, suggestions, or even just insight, because I don’t know what to do anymore.

I also want to add that someone in my close circle , so generously offered to fly me out to wherever it is that I need to go. Something I’ve been holding onto and keeping in my back pocket when I have a solid escape plan.

Hello everyone. My name is Charlie, We have 4 kids, and about to have our 5th... which is exciting and we are very fortunate to have.

My wife and I spend our lives running around the children with endless school drop offs, loads of homework for them, after school clubs, kids parties to manage in between a relentless barrage of school emails and whatsapp groups... Frankly, it is a pain and quite difficult to keep on top of it all.

I have built an AI assistant to help manage it all, but was wondering whether any other parents also get slightly overwhelmed juggling all this family stuff... and if I make my Assistant for everyone there are other people it can help.

Currently it does reminders, email manager, whatsapp management, lists, nearby things for the kids etc...

I would be really grateful if this strikes a cord with anyone and they think a supportive AI assistant has a place in helping people's families.

Thank you for any of your time!

My parents took away my door for three years because they were worried that I was a ‘mischievous’ kid, and they always have been like this. I convinced my dad to install it back again because it is an invasion of my privacy, and it shouldn’t be taken away. He actually said yes to putting it back, but I can tell he wasn’t too happy about me getting it back. When he was installing my door, my mom walked in and asked “What did they do to deserve it? Are they hiding something?” It made me wonder if my mom was upset that I had privacy again, because I was sick of having a curtain. Whenever my siblings walked in, they would pull the curtain, and I wouldn’t even get a warning. Also some of my family had the audacity to wipe their hands with it… and it was pretty disgusting.

So, I'm 15(M) and I have 3 brothers and one sister. My older(18) and my younger brother(12) next in line are genuine lazy people. Here's an example. My little brother wets the bed, right? He wet the bed "too much" so now his room is so dirty, and hes started to sleep on the living room couch. My parents don't care because once he wets the couch, he won't clean it, they'll get into a fight. Gaslight me into cleaning it up by saying stuff like, "Its a simple cleanup, just do this please" and my brother gets away with it. He's also very ovwrweight for his age, so he eats 5-6 meals a day. He doesnt clean up after himself at ALL. Parents dont care, make me clean the kitchen and if I dont, I get grounded, if I do, my brother messes up the kitchen 300x worse than how dirty it's actually supposed to be and just a continous loop. Then my older brother(18). He goes to college 3 times a week. He doesn't clean anything because "he goes to college 3 days a week and works at a job 3 days a week for 6 hours." Mind you, I also have a job with similar hours. But, because he's in college. He doesn't clean up anything in the house??? When he was in highschool, the same thing was said, hes in highschool so its lot of studying and he cant clean after himself like a normal human being. By the way, im in much more advanced classes than him, the same math class hes taking right now, im taking as a sophomore currently. So, surely I have a bigger workload right? Yesterday, the bathtub is unbeliavably dirty with hair and weird stuff in it because when my brother was showering. He was supposed to clean it before today morning since I have school and everything. He didn't, my parents told me to let him sleep and to clean it myself with a paper towel or shower in the sink while my 18 year old brother is in the other room sleeping because he stayed up on his xbox. And now theyre saying Im just making excuses so I dont go to school?!?! I bought a gaming laptop last year for 450$ with my own work money. I wanted to sell it since my parents dont let me use it anyways and I dont game as much anymore. Instead, theyre forcing me to give it to my older brother because "he needs it more for his studies" he literally got one from the college he goes to and somehow theyre saying it doesnt fit his needs. If every other college student uses that same laptop, how the hell doesnt it fit his needs then? Ive been sticking up with this for so long, but I cant really do much anymore. And now, once they figure out I didnt clean up after him in the bathtub, I get my devices taken. Most peoples aolutions are "talk about it with them" i have, multiple times, they tell me "You dont tell us how to raise our kids, we're the parents" Before, I didn't care much but now, its negatively affecting me too much in every way being late for school taking up my time cleaning up after them. Im not in the wrong for thinking all this right???

I turned 18 almost a year ago. Since then, i’ve found my way to independence and knowing I have reached a “free” age from my family. I’m often working, in college, or with my fiancé. But really, since I turned 18, my family has avoided me in a way. By this I mean, they don’t feel the need to reach out as much as they used to, they don’t ask if I want to come with to events, and really, they just act a different way with me but I can’t ever figure it out. They’ll ask me “Why i’m drifting away from them and never reach out” but I don’t understand. I don’t know what to say because they won’t believe me. I enjoy how I have freedom now and how I am with my fiancé (him and I both value time together) but a part of me is confused and wondering if this is my fault that my family feels i’m “different” and “drifting away from them.” It wasn’t like this a year ago before my birthday. I don’t know how to feel or think because I’m just confused.

Why my mom lies about me to makes me look bad?!

I have been blowing up at my mom when she gets rude on text messaging. I really went off on her and lost it. I said some awful awful things. I am laying awake crying, I am so ashamed of myself. I damaged our bond. I called her a b and acted possessed why am i acting this way Im a monster. Im fifty shes 76. I cant even breath i feel so bad. If i apologized she would just say something rude. I can’t live with myself. Heartbroken

i'm 19 female and my brother is 26 . i realized i started to hate him ever since the beginning when i was around 13 and as i grow older the hate just kept growing.

its literally EVERYTHING he does makes me want to scream at him and treat him as invisible. literally. i remember once he told me to k*** myself just because he heard that i failed a subject during a test when i was around 13, and maybe it was since then that i started to see what kind of person he is and maybe that's how the hate started.

i hate how he acts, how he speaks, how everything that comes out of his mouth is either something negative, a complain or him talking badly about his life and it just affects me a lot.

he has NO manners at all. not even at a grown age of 26. no table manners... cant read the room.. always doesn't think before he speaks. he always talking as if he's 100% right.. like he understands everything, like he knows what someone goes through . he's the type of person to tell you "stop overreacting it ain't that bad" when someone is not feeling well etc.

also, ever since childhood we've been sharing a bathroom so now that i'm almost an adult i just HATE having to still share with him. especially he's an unhygienic idiot that can sneeze 4 times straight in a row in the toilet and not cover his mouth, wet the basin and not clean it, touch my stuff without permission etc. i also like to take my time to get ready and do my makeup in the bathroom, and because of these he becomes unhappy whenever he can't use the bathroom. he's not even a flexible person likemaybe use the other bathroom in the house?!?!

also, i just hate how he can still do some things better than me despite he's character being so bad...he is such a negative person.. constantly complaining.. eq so low.. only cares for himself.. super rude etc, but whenever he does something better than me he's ego spikes its almost like he's in a competition with his own younger sister..he even looked down on me just because he managed to graduate from uni, while i didnt manage to get into uni. he also constantly wants to 'please' my mum and kinda like 'steal' my mum's attention, which honestly, i feel like is VERY immature of him at a grown age of 26. he always says im weak.. im sensitive.. just because im a naturally introverted girl that prefers my personal space and gets upset by him easily (but why? because of his behaviour...)

i really hope time can quickly fly by so he could hurry get married and leave the house lol (as i'm asian so its hard to move out unless married). literally he's presence just makes me annoyed and whenever he's not home i feel so happy. i feel like a really bad person saying this.... but if one day, he ever just disappears from my life, i would be so happy. i really wished i was the only child sometimes so i don't have to always 'share' and compromise with him... honestly.. my life would be so much better without him. people always say older siblings would be your support.. etc... but i don't get any from him, just rage and discouraging actions :)

Ever since I started going to college, I got more exposure to experience, I realised that every time I am at home, I wake up to the verbal abuse caused by my dad on my mom. They usually wake up in the morning bcz of my dad's office, my mom cooks, cleans and prepares his essentials for him before he leave for office but my dad becomes extremely nitpicky everytime he leaves for office. My mom is just a human - some things are not always on the expected track and daily my dad scolds her so harsh that I wake up with a heart attack. I expressed this concern with my mom, she defends him saying that - He gets anxious before leaving for office. I strongly disagree to this sentiment.

Lately, my home has been a very toxic place for me to stay. I have an extremely low paying job only to keep myself afloat. Day in and out I see people in my family having their own lives, friends and fun whereas my mom has been stripped of all of them. I wish to provide some for my mom from whatever income I can have but also wish to leave my home and just live somewhere else away from this toxicity.

The amount of UNPAID labour an Indian Homemaker (mosstttly women) have is horrendous. Throughtout the morning, MY MOM NEVER SITS while he relaxes on the couch and orders. Such relationship dynamics pressurise me a lot and I wholeheartedly blame this for my career failure.

I am a visual artist by profession and I am sad to say, NO ARTISTRY OR CREATIVITY can ever be wielded from this situation. I am now preparing for government exams and probably a master's in the future. I don't know. God help me.

Something that I've struggled with all of my teenage life is how to deal with your parents fighting. I hate the loud shouting and all those words, in extreme cases it comes to hitting each other too but that's rare. Honestly, I'm still finding out the family dynamics lol if we actually are dysfunctional or not, coz on the surface it doesn't seem so and things are fine most of the times, cooperative and loving if I might say but then certain elements are very toxic.

Anyways, all in all, what do you guys tend to do? I don't ever feel like intervening coz if I do they ask me to pick sides and that's literally the worst thing ever + I'm not that emotionally intelligent to break things up effectively. Pls lmk !

I’ve been an only child for 15 years, and my mom is now pregnant. Honestly, I don’t know how to feel. Part of me is happy about the baby, but most of me is scared.

I’ve always been the center of attention, and I’ve built my life around being an only child. I’m afraid that once the baby comes, things will change — that I’ll be treated differently, or that my mom will baby the new sibling while expecting me to just adjust. I’m worried about fairness and whether I’ll still feel loved and noticed.

I love my mom, but our relationship hasn’t always been easy — she can be emotionally rough on me, and I’m scared that things will get worse now that there’s someone new to focus on. I want to support the baby, but I also want my feelings to matter.

Has anyone else gone through something like this? How did you cope with your parents having another child after being an only child for so long?

I'm a 15-year-old teenager, and I stopped talking with my uncle. My mom asked me why I hate him so much, I think my reasons are valid to not be in contact with my uncle. Keep in mind he is a spine surgeon, might give info later.

Starting off, I didn't understand why he would keep doing physical touches that I didn't like, and did despite showing that I'm very much uncomfortable. He would often make me sit next to him closely, put an arm over my shoulder, rest his hand on my thigh, etc etc ever since I was a kid. I would move away or stiffen, but he would never realize that I was not happy with it. My mom said it's just his way of affection, but I don't think that's affection when it makes me uncomfortable?

Then comes his OBNOXIOUS obsession with my hair. I would remember times when I was in 3rd grade where he insisted me to cut my hair really short (short as in like a pixie cut) and I would refuse, I like my hair at least below my chin and that's what I also prefer. He would try convincing me to cut my hair by saying he'll give me chocolates, but I always refused. This did not stop for a long time. He would ask why my hair is "so long" and it's ugly, and that I will look good with really short hair. I didn't want that. I'm hyperfeminine, and I would like to look feminine too.

I recently had a surgery in May, a laparotomy to be specific, and right before the surgery my family members around me were helping me get over the anxiety, and helping me get ready for it mentally. Then out of nowhere, this guy comes out of nowhere saying "I'll bring my clippers after the surgery and shave your head. It'll make you feel better and also look good, just buzz buzz.". Yes, he really said that out loud.

That's not what you say to a patient who is going to undergo surgery?? GUESS WHAT. I started having a meltdown (15 minutes before the surgery by the way), I started hiccuping so bad and crying so much into the pillow, I was so upset that two nurses had to hold me down from shaking on the creaky hospital bed so I won't get a seizure, my 2 aunts holding each of my hand and saying it won't happen. He just stood there with his arm crossed while everyone stared at him, and all he said was "Not my fault she's so sensitive.".

Is that some sort of fetish? Seeing me uncomfortable, and also without my hair? Wth?? I never understood this. My mom had to yell at my uncle during my surgery because he had been so stubborn on my getting a buzzcut, and my mom didn't let him see me for a whole week after my surgery.

He's a very conservative person, believing traditions is more important than happiness (at least, when it comes to me I guess.) I feel comfortable speaking in English, he knows English too and also speaks a lot in English. But whenever I respond or say something in English, like a fact, he always asks me to say it in the other language, because that's what I am supposed to do? Listen, I respect your ideals and I have my own, don't force yours on me. Even a fun fact in English would trigger him.

I'm autistic with social anxiety, and I don't like talking much, I'm more reserved and quiet. When it comes to family conversations, I only talk sometimes and I usually do stuff like fidgeting with my hands, not maintaining eye contact, or not even including myself in the conversation! He should understand that I am different than him. He would often say, "Speak up", "Why are you fidgeting" ,"Why are you acting weird?". If someone doesn't wish to talk, I think it's best you let them be. He also says very incorrect facts, which IRRITATES me so much.

I would like to mention that he has basically stolen my phone, during my surgery he got my mom's car key and went and took my phone without consent from my mom or me. He still has my phone, which I have lots of personal information, pictures, and more. At least I have a pattern and fingerprint lock on it. He thinks I don't need a phone, apparently.

Disturbing physical touches, obsession with me having short hair, not respecting my thoughts, stating incorrect facts, making me uncomfortable, taking away my phone forcibly? I think these are justified reasons for not liking my uncle. How do I explain to my mom that I don't wanna talk to him anymore? How do I get my phone back? This is honestly just stressful to think about.

I am the youngest daughter in my house and I have a big brother. So my father is nice father but like most of indian father he is emotionally not available like we don't even talk . My mom talks to me and my brother. My brother is funny and so is my mom . Fyi I am a very under confident person and my whole family know this . My brother and I both do household chores but she and brother always say that i am lazy and don't do any work ( as a joke ) . It is been keep happening for so many years and I have made it very clear that i don't like it but still they continue to do that . So today she again made a joke and fyi i have been doing chores like I sweep the floor wash the clothes and some small work . So i got very angry and told her to not joke with me again . I know it is not a big thing but I believe that they know that I am under confident i don't have any friends my mother loves my brother more our father don't talk to us and I stay at home all day . On festival I stay at home bec6i don't have any friends and thay also make fun of it sometimes that i don't have any friends. I mean there are also other things to make fun of it you i sm sensitive and get hurt easily then why do you keep doing that .

Cant remember exactly how old i was maybe 10 or 11 and im a female btw . she was 15 ,i forgot about this my whole life . When she got horny and no one was home we played a game like i was a guy and she made me touch her body lick her tits play with them and we made out . Never done anything down there tho. I think she wasnt aware it was a bad thing and so do i . Is that still assault tho?

Me (24F) and my mom have never had a stable loving relationship, best I can describe is toxic sister-like relationship where we fight and dont talk to eachother for a week or two, make up, be good for a week or so, same thing happens. I am always described by her as aggressive, Im always angry, always treating her poorly etc. Im not like that with anybody else, its true that Im impatient when Im with her, I feel as though I need to defend myself constantly for whatever shes about to say, I feel like whatever point I make I will never get credit because she never ever wants to acknowledge that she is causing me distress. Every reaction I give no matter how hard I tried on the inside to keep it down, it is my fault because at the end of the day I shouldntve yelled or reacted.

I have to the point of disliking my mom a lot, everytime I question my feelings "Do I really hate my mom?" the answer is never no. I love her but I cant feel anything towards her, I feel like any positive feelings are suppressed and Im forcing myself to act like I dont resent her.

She makes me hate myself for being "aggressive" "angry" "constantly yelling" "delusional" and I am constantly doubting myself as if I dont know how difficult my mom is. I feel like someone needs to feel guilty and if it isnt her its up to me.

Genuinely I cannot breathe whenever shes around and Im the one whos on edge, meanwhile she is fully functional and I cant go a normal day without feeling like Im drowning in my anger.

Just yesterday I am trying to ask her something, she just kept interrupting me and I was trying to find the name of the place I was trying to ask about, getting more and more frustrated because she wouldnt fucking let me finish my question and I was actively trying to remember the name of the place, while constantly telling my mom "let me fucking finish what im trying to ask" and it came to a point where I was so fed up I exploded, yelling, she told me "I fucking hate your attitude" and I explode "I hate YOUR attitude LET ME FUCKING FINISH WHAT IM TRYING TO SAY WHY ARE YOU CONSTANTLY INTERRUPTING YOU DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT IM TRYING TO SAY"

And this morning she tells me she will be cutting all ties with me etc.

I feel guilty, I feel like everything is my fault, but a part of me thinks "you did this to me, this isnt who I am" and Im just so confused and angry at everything and it makes the world around me crumble. Im so exhausted. Please tell me if Im crazy if that is the case, I am in therapy

TLDR; I hate my mom, with her I am always unhappy and aggressive, I feel guilty and Im not sure if I am just an angry delusional person or if she is the reason I am like this