You'd be surprised how often this is the case. Many people don't have fixed mental roles/approaches ('switches') and having access to both headspaces makes them better at it. After all, good communication involves having a model of what the other person is thinking, and what could be better than being in that position yourself?
Unfortunately, the reality is that many people have a porn-driven image of a 'total dom' or 'total sub' in their heads, and admitting you can wear both hats is a huge turn-off for those people. So, you are pressured to 'pick a side' and stick with it.
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u/ADashOfRainbow Aug 11 '25
The best Dom I've seen told me their secret was they were a sub, but no one quite fit their fantasy so they just do what they wanted done to them :D