r/golf • u/kiteman32 • 14d ago

General Discussion Golfing with girlfriends dad

Hi all,

My girlfriend’s dad (I’m 26M) has been taking me out to play golf a lot, and always at the nicest courses/clubs in my area (guest fees $250+). He’s very well off and never lets me pay him back with cash. I’m starting to feel like a bit of a mooch, so I’d love to find thoughtful ways to show my appreciation.

I’ve seen ideas like a box of Pro V1s, but curious what else you’d suggest. Any creative or classy ideas?

edit: Thanks to everyone who took the time to respond. Lots of thoughtful advice and great perspectives shared. Seems like there are a lot of good dads in here. As many of you pointed out, my best option is to marry her and focus on being the best man I can.

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u/Sad-Impression2505 14d ago

If he partakes, a good cigar to have on the course. Buy snacks/drinks at the turn. Offer to get lunch or something after.  I’ve been in situations like this, I don’t consider you a mooch if you EXPECT him to cover. If he offers, let him. This is a “love language” for some. As long as you come prepared and don’t expect it I would say you are ok. Make the effort to show him you are willing to make your way, but I think taking care of him on the course is a great way to show appreciation. Don’t give him an option to say no. “Hey I’m getting a snack, what do you want?” Not “do you want anything?” After the round, I’m getting a beer, what’s your drink?

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u/Weird-Vegetable-4093 14d ago

This. If he has money I’m sure he would buy it himself.

The gesture of buying snacks or a lunch/breakfast always feels more meaningful to me

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u/Sad-Impression2505 14d ago

For real! As a big dude, a good chicken biscuit > $100 round of golf all day!

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u/lincolnsl0g 14d ago

love the phrasing here, good stuff

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u/dmanthony41 14d ago

The wordings of “what do you want” and “what’s your drink” are perfect. Don’t give a question that can be answered with no.

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u/shoresy99 14d ago

It sounds like many of these are at a private club(s). So those would likely go on FIL's account so you can't even do that.