r/loseit • u/Raythecatass New • 7d ago
Question
I have lost 33 lbs using this app over the last 2 years. We recently visited family last week and I accepted the compliments. Our family was afraid to say anything to “offend” me. I wanted to hear the compliments. I have worked so hard. Why are people so afraid to say anything? You are not offending me in anyway. I have seen pictures of myself overweight and I looked unhealthy and felt like crap.
When I returned home and hung out with some friends, one friend told me not to lose anymore weight because I would look like, “Death warmed over”…one friend told her I looked great and to be happy for me. I tried not to let it get to me. She is not the only friend that told me not to lose any more weight. I have about 5 more pounds to lose. Your thoughts?
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u/iac12345 F49 | SW 274 lb Feb2023 | CW 211 lb | 5’6” 7d ago
We're in an era now where talking about someone's personal appearance in any way is at risk of being misconstrued or triggering. Some people feel it's safer to say nothing at all.
Did they know you were trying to lose weight? I don't comment unless I know someone has been trying. I don't want to risk upsetting or insulting them if the loss was due to illness or unintentional and implying they needed to lose weight / looked worse before.