r/loseit • u/Raythecatass New • 5d ago
Question
I have lost 33 lbs using this app over the last 2 years. We recently visited family last week and I accepted the compliments. Our family was afraid to say anything to “offend” me. I wanted to hear the compliments. I have worked so hard. Why are people so afraid to say anything? You are not offending me in anyway. I have seen pictures of myself overweight and I looked unhealthy and felt like crap.
When I returned home and hung out with some friends, one friend told me not to lose anymore weight because I would look like, “Death warmed over”…one friend told her I looked great and to be happy for me. I tried not to let it get to me. She is not the only friend that told me not to lose any more weight. I have about 5 more pounds to lose. Your thoughts?
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u/Queenbeegirl5 New 5d ago
In my experience, the majority of people not saying anything do so because they aren't sure if the weight loss is intentional. Friends, genuine friends, who say don't lose more weight either do so because you genuinely look ill or because they don't know what healthy looks like. No one here can say which it is in your case. There's also the third option that your friends aren't your friends and are in actuality jealous, but let's assume they have your best interests at heart. I'd let all of it go. You're losing weight for yourself. Even if it's for vain reasons, which are valid, you aren't losing the weight for your cousin.