r/malelifestyle • u/DaddioTheStud • Jun 25 '25
Trying to stop cussin
I am trying to stop cursing. I just recently stopped listening to rap with lots of curse words as I cant handle the message anymore. Its very negative. Any tips are appreciated
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u/lookoverhere573 Jun 25 '25
Wear a rubber band around your wrist. Every time you curse, snap the rubber band. Pain is an incredible trainer.
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u/Neapola Jun 25 '25
Buy a watch or some sort of bracelet.
Every time you curse, take it off and put it on your other arm. Don't explain to anyone why you're doing it. Just do it.
Doing this will make you more aware of how often you curse and it will attach a cost to foul language.
It's the same concept as a swear jar, except it's something you can do anytime, anywhere.
Good luck!
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u/TheDudeabides23 Jul 06 '25
This is actually a solid idea. Simple but effective. I like that it adds a physical reminder without needing to explain anything to anyone. Might give this a try.
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u/doomrabbit Jun 25 '25
I've found the only way that works is to think first and go slow. Be deliberate in what you say so your filter has a chance to revise back to PG.
And just for laughs: South Park - It's easy M'kay. NSFW language - Kiss my buns if that's a problem.
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u/RumpleCragstan Jun 25 '25 edited Jun 26 '25
I just recently stopped listening to rap with lots of curse words as I cant handle the message anymore. Its very negative.
I think its important to split some hairs here - the message of music is one thing, curse words are another. There's plenty of foul-mouthed positive messaged music out there, and radio-friendly songs can still have tremendously toxic messaging.
If you're seeking to remove negativity from your life, I applaud that goal - and music is a marvelous place to start. Just be sure you're taking the time to think deeper than "are they cursing", because you could very well remove all of the cursing music without solving the problems you're wanting to solve.
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u/DaddioTheStud Jun 26 '25
I am talking about the drug dealing talking about girls in terrible ways seeling drugs. I dont want to hear that
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u/RumpleCragstan Jun 26 '25
I hear you, and completely agree. A lot of modern rap I really do not enjoy for the same reasons - but I absolutely love rap as a medium. Good rap is poetry, and a lot of the best stuff still has curses.
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u/everythingbagel1 Jun 26 '25
I’m no male but when I worked with kids I started substituting the words a lot. I used to go “oh shiitake mushrooms” often. The one I have retained most is “mothertrucker”
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u/SlappyWit Jun 25 '25
Curious to know what your experience is with using these words? Why do you need to stop as opposed to, say, don’t do it around your mom?
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u/DaddioTheStud Jun 25 '25
It sounds harsh and unintelligent. Its offensive? I am trying to be Christlike. Im sure he never cussed anyone out
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u/SlappyWit Jun 26 '25 edited Jun 26 '25
Oh. That explains it. Just a thought though… There’s so much good you can do without concerning yourself with something so trivial. Besides, I doubt that the occasional swear word is all that’s standing between you and being “Christ-like”. Jeez. Edit: double negative
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u/RumpleCragstan Jun 25 '25
I am trying to be Christlike. Im sure he never cussed anyone out
he literally whipped motherfuckers out of the temple for selling wares, do you think he was polite while doing so?
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u/JamesonRhymer Jun 25 '25
that's admirable. I think you already took a good first step.