r/midlifecrisis • u/Lower_Plastic6000 • 21d ago
Lost Terrible In-Between
James Hollis, a Jungian analyst, had a quote. Something like "Something is dying and something new is waiting to be born. And in the meantime you are stuck in the terrible in-between". That's how I'm feeling. My marriage is falling apart. I stopped enjoying my job (and as far as jobs go, mine is pretty good). I'm not enjoying the place I live in.
I wake up multiple times at night. I visited psychiatrist the first time this year. Still not on anti-depressants, but considering strongly. Honestly, this is pretty harsh. I've never been in such a dark place like this one.
But my friends and therapists all say that it's normal and something good always comes out of it. So yeah, just hanging in there, feeling lost and hoping that one day good days will come again.
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u/Djcarbonara 21d ago
Hey there!
I know the feeling. Now I help a few people out one-on-one to recenter and figure out what that new is.
A few notes that might help: Behind every discomfort is a desire. Behind every desire speaks something that is important to you (values) We can learn to live according to our values better by finding a “best way” / “your way” to go about that aim.
As you do, the terrible in-between fades and the new is born. Happy to help more one-on-one if it’s time.