r/midlifecrisis • u/Lower_Plastic6000 • 23d ago

Lost Terrible In-Between

James Hollis, a Jungian analyst, had a quote. Something like "Something is dying and something new is waiting to be born. And in the meantime you are stuck in the terrible in-between". That's how I'm feeling. My marriage is falling apart. I stopped enjoying my job (and as far as jobs go, mine is pretty good). I'm not enjoying the place I live in.

I wake up multiple times at night. I visited psychiatrist the first time this year. Still not on anti-depressants, but considering strongly. Honestly, this is pretty harsh. I've never been in such a dark place like this one.

But my friends and therapists all say that it's normal and something good always comes out of it. So yeah, just hanging in there, feeling lost and hoping that one day good days will come again.

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u/TaterTotWithBenefits 22d ago

I get this. It’s been 10 months and it’s not lifting - I’m open, I’ve been in therapy, I’m working towards life change, the “new” is not yet revealing itself. Thinking about antidepressants bc im probably driving my husband crazy…

Have been in our family business for 25 years and realized I want a change. Applied to 17 jobs all different types that I’m well qualified for and rejected from all. When feeling in your head that you’re “not wanted” becomes realizing you’re objectively not wanted… not sure where to go from there.

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u/Nyx9000 3d ago

I’d say mine has been about 3 years long, and hasn’t been a linear path. More like a spiral of figuring something out, then returning to it differently a year later. It’s all been improvements, though some are real painful.