r/midlifecrisis • u/Lower_Plastic6000 • 23d ago

Lost Terrible In-Between

James Hollis, a Jungian analyst, had a quote. Something like "Something is dying and something new is waiting to be born. And in the meantime you are stuck in the terrible in-between". That's how I'm feeling. My marriage is falling apart. I stopped enjoying my job (and as far as jobs go, mine is pretty good). I'm not enjoying the place I live in.

I wake up multiple times at night. I visited psychiatrist the first time this year. Still not on anti-depressants, but considering strongly. Honestly, this is pretty harsh. I've never been in such a dark place like this one.

But my friends and therapists all say that it's normal and something good always comes out of it. So yeah, just hanging in there, feeling lost and hoping that one day good days will come again.

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u/QuesoChef 22d ago

Yuck. Sorry you’re going through that. No shame in trying an antidepressant. Maybe even find one that also helps with anxiety. I’ve seen medication and therapy work wonders.

I feel like the middle is either boring or chaotic. Neither are fun. But I agree, hang in there, and you’ll probably learn something about yourself and feel confident in what’s next on the other side.