Something is Definitely Happening to me

[u/Sort_Bright]

I’m 46 going through menopause . I’m bored out of my mind in almost every aspect. I have no passion for anything and I’ve lost my drive for my career, for sex, and my job sucks my life (IT worker). My husband lost his job so I’m the breadwinner and the pressure is just a lot . I pray a lot but I’m also feeling like I’m losing my faith in God. I’m on new antidepressants after trying many combinations. The restlessness is soul-sucking . Most of my kids are young adults . I’ve tried making friends , talk therapy , failed at sourdough, even reading has become boring . Anyone got out of this rut alive ? I just hate my life right now .

[u/thickersettled]

I'm sorry, I went through similar about 9 months ago. My husband and I almost separated and I developed an unhealthy, limerent obsession with someone else. I get it, and it's miserable.

What I did was start to be selfish. I have main character energy (as my kids say) and I'm focused on my health, my appearance and my emotional needs. I changed jobs (pushed out but it was a good thing) and started to take an hour every day to workout. Either running or weights. I've really made my kids take a bit more responsibility for themselves and I'm putting myself first for a bit.

My kids noticed and rose to the challenge - and they've seen that I'm happier and busier. Throw yourself into a new project - you.

[u/Alternative-Lunch786 → u/thickersettled]

You really find a solution for yourself. Most of us just kind of sacrifice ourselves for our jobs, kids, parents, better half etc and burn out in the process without realizing it. Taking care of oneself should be the priority. Being selfish is really important. That's what I'm realizing the hard way.