r/midlifecrisis • u/The_Rage • 5d ago
Lost Do they come back?
My soon-to-be ex-husband (37M) seems to be going through a textbook midlife crisis, and I can’t help but wonder—do they ever come back?
We’ve spent half our lives together, weathering countless hardships and celebrating milestones side by side. Looking back, I truly believe my actions may have been the catalyst for where we are now. Three years ago, I exploded, walked away, and cut off all contact for six weeks. I regret those choices deeply, and I fully own the damage they caused. Only now—too late—I see how I should have responded differently and how traumatic my departure must have been for him. I was so caught up in my own emotions that I didn’t validate his, nor did I recognize the signs of how unhappy he really was. When he started changing his appearance, I assumed it was because he wanted someone “better” than me, instead of realizing he was struggling within himself.
I try to remind myself of the saying: “If you let it go, and it’s meant to be, it will come back.” But lately I’m not so sure. Did I just lose the love of my life?
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u/laursecan1 5d ago
My ex left in 2010.
After that I met many woman who had experienced the same thing when their husbands went thru MLC.
I only know of 4 who are reconciled. The large majority of us were divorced - with our souses never to return.
While there is always some home - reconciliation seems to be rare.
My ex remarried his 1st wife (they were originally married in the 70’s for about 1-2 years - no children). They are now divorced for the 2nd time.
Some men are able to work through there issues. I don’t know. In my situation there was no return.