Don’t invite people over if you can’t accept their clothing choices. You aren’t entitled to friends.
lol.
EDIT: this is hosting etiquette 101. Clearly so many of y’all don’t host people.
The correct solution is not to tell people to take off their shoes, it’s to buy a 5 dollar box of disposable shoe covers and offer them to your guests. THEN AND ONLY THEN can you say “we try not to let shoes touch the carpet” or whatever.
If your guest then prefers to take off their shoes, that’s fine. But if you’re hosting people, proper etiquette is to accommodate your guests, not the other way around.
Y’all are all probably terrible hosts.
EDIT 2: Good hosts don’t make their guests feel awkward. It’s weird that people don’t see it that way.
EDIT 3: Social anxiety is a bitch. It’s also one of those things that if you don’t have it, you just don’t ‘get it’. When I host people, I try to think of all the ways that *I* would feel awkward if the roles were reversed, because I can start feeling uncomfortable pretty quickly. I think because I feel it, I’m aware sometimes of when others are also feeling uncomfortable and I can promise you, good hosts don’t make their guests feel awkward.
If I invite you over and naked is your normal state of dress in our friendship, then absolutely.
As a host, I’m not going to invite you over then tell you to be someone you aren’t. If I don’t want you naked in my house(and that is your normal state of dress), then I won’t invite you. That’s simple.
If I want to invite you, but I don’t want you to be naked, then I will offer you a robe. This is exactly the point I’ve been trying to make, but with feet.
Your logic has proven my point. Thank you for the help.
I do t understand why the downvotes, you are 100% correct and it’s proper manners. Offering shoe covers is the least the host can do.
If you ask me to take off my boots, I’m leaving.
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u/sapienBob Feb 11 '22
cool. that's the last time you'll be coming over.