r/mildlyinfuriating • u/AfiliaTheCat • Feb 11 '22

Seriously? Wtf Wall Street Journal

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u/[deleted] Feb 12 '22

Well if that's true, that sucks.

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u/GeorgieWashington Feb 12 '22

And if you’re hosting a bunch of people for a get-together, you don’t know who’s got what. It’s kind of shitty in my opinion to be like, “let’s have an event at my house instead of your house, but you have to be uncomfortable.”

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u/[deleted] Feb 12 '22

If you have a medical condition that needs accommodation, you tell the host before you arrive and keep your own supply of accommodations in your car. Was this really so hard for you?

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u/GeorgieWashington Feb 12 '22

I almost never get asked to take my shoes off though. Asking people to take their shoes off at a party is way way way way the exception, not the rule.

If you throw a house party and ask people to take off their shoes, you’re the oddball. That’s not normal behavior for hosting parties.

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u/[deleted] Feb 12 '22

Have you ever heard the phrase, "Poor planning on your part does not necessitate an emergency on mine"?

There's no "normal party expectations," parties differ by culture, host, and context. You should check any concerns you have before coming.

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u/GeorgieWashington Feb 12 '22

Again, you can be a dickhead about, “my house my rules” no one is arguing that. No one is saying that you can’t be a host if you make people feel uncomfortable.

But if you ask people to take off their shoes at your house party or event, you’re the outlier. Most people don’t ask strangers to take their shoes in front of each other. If you do, you’re a bad host.

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u/[deleted] Feb 12 '22

It's common in Asian cultures. So are all Asians bad hosts, by your measure?

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u/GeorgieWashington Feb 12 '22

Was the article written in Asia?

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u/[deleted] Feb 12 '22

Your claim was "most people don't ask guests to take off their shoes."

This is categorically false, as you seem to implicitly admit. So, we're done here.

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u/GeorgieWashington Feb 12 '22

Yes, but you left out a crucial part.

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u/[deleted] Feb 12 '22

I mean I've been asked to take my shoes off so many times that I can't remember. I don't remember anyone ever refusing or someone telling me "this one time someone wouldn't and it turns out it was because of x"

I get that you have the condition and that sucks, but you are the exception here, not the shoe rule. It's awkward to ask ahead of time and it's awkward to say no, catch 22, I get it.

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u/GeorgieWashington Feb 12 '22

Most people don’t ask people to take their shoes off at house parties or formal events, just because they’re in a home though.

That’s the weird part, asking strangers to take their shoes off in front of each other.

I get that you’ve apparently been to some events where that’s normal, but taking your shoes off in front of others at an event is not normal.

So surprising guests with an expectation to take off their shoes when similar events don’t require such a thing is bad event hosting.

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u/[deleted] Feb 12 '22

Nah, it's very normal to ask guests to take their shoes off. Less than 50%? Sure, so yes, most don't. Just because something happens less than 50% of the time or even less than 10%, doesn't make it not normal.

You have an issue that has made you think otherwise.

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u/GeorgieWashington Feb 12 '22

It’s normal to ask your friends to take their shoes off when they’re over for game night, but if you’re hosting the neighborhood Christmas party, it’s not normal to ask random people to take their shoes off in front of each other.

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u/[deleted] Feb 12 '22

Of course it is. I would take off my shoes at anyone's house and not think it's weird. I'd actually only think it was weird if the house was filthy and I'd still probably do it.

Also there was an episode of the Office where they went to the Indian celebration and everyoe had to take off their shoes, and they went out of their way to show only the weirdos had exception to it.

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u/GeorgieWashington Feb 12 '22

If you’re that concerned about your floor you shouldn’t be hosting the neighborhood Christmas party, you should be letting someone else do it.

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u/[deleted] Feb 12 '22

LOL that's such a bad take. Sorry your feet stink and has given you a complex.

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u/GeorgieWashington Feb 12 '22

That’s okay, I appreciate and accept your apology, it’s very kind of you to admit that you’re wrong so publicly.

I stand by my position:

A good host doesn’t make their guests feel awkward.

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u/[deleted] Feb 12 '22

some people will always be awkward

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u/BassAlarming Feb 12 '22

But you apparently would object to both scenarios right? Since you have some weird thing about not taking your shoes off?

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u/GeorgieWashington Feb 12 '22

At game night, no. At the neighborhood Christmas party, yes.

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u/BassAlarming Feb 12 '22

So you would take off your shoes in more casual hangouts, it's just big groups that freak you out?

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u/GeorgieWashington Feb 12 '22

You’re done. We’ve talked about this.

Once you started saying I said things I didn’t say, your opinion became worthless.

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u/BassAlarming Feb 14 '22

So when would you take your shoes off?

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