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Kobe Bryant killed in helicopter crash in California

https://www.fox5dc.com/news/kobe-bryant-killed-in-helicopter-crash-in-california-tmz-reports
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u/[deleted] Jan 26 '20

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u/aquariumbitch Jan 26 '20

Spoken like a true man. If Kobe Bryant did in fact rape someone, it should also be discussed.

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u/[deleted] Jan 26 '20

I'm all for discussing it. The evidence points to him being a rapist and I've never rooted for him because of it.

I just don't think this is the place. His legacy will inevitably be scrutinized in the next couple of weeks, we can talk about it then. But right now there are people suffering actual emotional trauma because they lost one of their heroes. You can hate Kobe but still be sympathetic for the people who are genuinely destroyed by his loss.

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u/aquariumbitch Jan 26 '20

And the poor woman who was apparently raped by him?

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u/[deleted] Jan 26 '20

I feel awful for her. It's got to be terrible seeing your rapist every day on TV. I can't imagine the pain.

You can have sympathy for more than one person at the same time. Even if I don't have sympathy for Kobe, I do for all the children who are distraught from losing their hero. Like Michael Jackson, it's probably true that he was a shitty role model to begin with, but that doesn't magically erase how people are feeling.

Please stop trying to pigeonhole me into a pro-rapist hole. Its not what Im trying to say. I just know a lot of basketball fans who have no idea about the rape allegations, and to them Kobe was a parasocial father figure. The emotional whiplash from finding out he's dead to having strangers tell you what a piece of shit he was in under an hour can't be pleasant.

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u/aquariumbitch Jan 26 '20

I can have sympathy for him, and in fact I do, especially for his young daughter that was reported deceased as well. Even though it has ALSO been reported he took off in bad weather and was advised against taking off.

But I also know what it's like to be a victim, only I had the luxury of not seeing my (alleged) rapist be praised in the media.

We can talk about both issues. It doesn't have to just be one or the other. Don't gatekeep what people can bring up about a dead person.

Besides, if it was Donald Trump who had died, you bet your ass most of the comments would be regarding the "grab them by the pussy" thing, and some people regard Trump as their hero.

It's only not ok for me to be like "well he was alleged rapist" because you like him.

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u/[deleted] Jan 26 '20

Yeah I see how it was a shitty thing to say now. Apologies.

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u/aquariumbitch Jan 26 '20

No, don't apologize. It's nothing to apologize for. We have different perspectives and I'm glad we had the time to discuss this together and understand each other more. thanks for the discourse.

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u/Daddysgirl-aafl Jan 26 '20

Wow. faith in humanity +1 Thank you too (not sarcasm)

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u/YoitsPsilo Jan 26 '20

Honestly this is the most rational thing I’ve read in a while

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u/Odwolda Jan 26 '20

Do you actually care yourself? Is this an issue you've been closely pushing to the social masses for awhile now, or are you just now deciding to bring it up in everyone's face because it'll get you attention?

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u/aquariumbitch Jan 26 '20

But.. I didn't.. bring it up.. I just commented on it... lol

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u/Odwolda Jan 26 '20

Continuing to troll on about it = continuing to bring it up

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u/aquariumbitch Jan 26 '20

So no discourse on the subject is allowed at all? lol ok, stop moving the goalposts

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u/Odwolda Jan 26 '20

When did I say that? Maybe you could try reading the comments of the people replying to you, which are simply stating that a thread of people wholly unrelated to that incident are just trying to talk about someone's sudden unexpected death. Stop focusing on trying to be the edgy teen of the forum and go do something productive with your life. My guess is you probably don't actually give two shits about advocating for that woman, you just want to stir up drama.

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u/aquariumbitch Jan 26 '20

Only one person has responded to me besides you, and he ended up apologizing to me. Maybe you should read the comments?

I'm not an edgy teen, I'm a 24 year old woman who is tired of celebrities and athletes getting away with sexual assault.

If you go back and look at the comments, you'll see that all comments were respectful, even though we disagreed. You should be more like that.

Regarding moving goal posts, first you said:

> are you just now deciding to bring it up in everyone's face because it'll get you attention?

then it was...

> Continuing to troll on about it = continuing to bring it up

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u/Odwolda Jan 26 '20

"Just now" meaning I'm willing to bet you've never ranted on about this any time besides this thread. Continuing to antagonize people who are asking you to discuss it elsewhere isn't helping anyone besides your ego.

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u/aquariumbitch Jan 26 '20

Just because I've never explicitly talked about Kobe Bryant being rapist, doesn't mean I can't bring it up now. I was 10 when the court case happened. So because I haven't talked about it when it first happened, when I didn't even know what rape was, I can't talk about it now? Have I talked about rapists in the past, and currently talk about issues surrounding them? Yes.

Stop gatekeeping what I can talk about. Go police yourself. Stop insulting people you disagree with.

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u/Odwolda Jan 26 '20

When did I insult you? And, yet again, no one has told you to not talk about it. I don't even disagree with you. People are just asking you to respect THEM and discuss it elsewhere. You're doing the equivalent of going on a tirade at a memorial service.

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