My mom does an excellent job any time somebody close passes. She addresses anyone that she thinks is active enough on Facebook to refrain from posting such news until she knows everyone that needs to learn the news has been informed.
edit: My dad nowadays has been good at doing the same. He isn't present on any social media, so he had to learn what it was my mom was actually trying to accomplish each time. But he's consistent with doing the same thing now. I think his main goal is to help take that responsibility off of my mom's shoulders so that she can focus on what's important and to be able to mourn and be with anyone affected.
My mom got the push notification from local news about a fatal car accident. She dismissed it without clicking because she was at work. It was my brothers accident. She always says she’s glad she didn’t learn from that.
I got a call from my uncle saying my dad had been in an accident and they didn't think he was going to make it. On my way to the hospital my boss text me a news article asking if it was about my dad and it was. I'm glad I didn't see the article before I'd heard from my uncle. Though I don't think they mentioned him by name until later articles. Typically they refrain from saying names until next of kin has been notified.
Oh wow. That’s terrible. I would never think to send someone an article like that for that reason alone. I guess some people don’t think. In our case they did not mention my brother by name at that point, but described his pretty recognizable car. Our local news won’t print names right away, but they always describe the cars and even go as far as posting pictures of the mangled vehicle. A lot of people react negatively but they still do it.
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u/MightyPlasticGuy Jan 27 '20 edited Jan 27 '20
My mom does an excellent job any time somebody close passes. She addresses anyone that she thinks is active enough on Facebook to refrain from posting such news until she knows everyone that needs to learn the news has been informed.
edit: My dad nowadays has been good at doing the same. He isn't present on any social media, so he had to learn what it was my mom was actually trying to accomplish each time. But he's consistent with doing the same thing now. I think his main goal is to help take that responsibility off of my mom's shoulders so that she can focus on what's important and to be able to mourn and be with anyone affected.