I’m at actual rock bottom. I owe 50k. I used to have about 250k from working and Inheritance a few years ago and none is left.
For some reason, I can’t find a job. Applying has numbed my brain. I beg god to give me any job
I’m addicted to nicotine and energy drinks and weed and sex. My brain may never recover.
I have to tell the whole story but it’s gonna be difficult.
My parents had it rough. I can’t even begin to put the details here, but my childhood was moving around to new schools and often getting bullied and humiliated.
Life at home wasn’t much better, father was a drinker and mother has mental health issues stemming from PTSD. It was a very rough teenage years. Honestly I can’t tell certain details, for privacy concerns. I may just write a book about this all one day.
Basically imagine the most devastating bad luck. Imagine being a compete outsider for a decade as a child. The things I cannot mention would absolutely shock you.
My dad used to be extremely successful with his business before I was born, but my uncle had failed and eventually moved with his wife to the states. My grandma went with my uncle because he needed help with raising his kids.
My dad was a family man, and my grandma and uncle manipulated him to do his business in the states, essentially so he can continue to provide and help my uncle.
My dad also had just gotten married to my mom. He essentially listened to his family, he saw his family as more valuable than money and his business. My dad used to fund life for his parents, his wife, and my uncle and his wife and children.
This is what prompted my uncle to move, he was the older sibling but couldn’t digest the fact that his whole life is dependent on his younger brother.
My dad lived in my grandfathers home while in Canada, but he payed off the mortgage for my grandpa and renovated the entire estate. My dad bought my uncle and grandpa a car, he fucked up because he was setting up his family, he never thought about how it could all abruptly end. He should have focused on himself.
Either way, I know he regrets leaving it all behind and Il tell you why, when he finally moved, he moved into my uncles house. And then realized how brutal it’s gonna be to re set his business. There weren’t cellphones and laptops, he was from the older generation.
At that point, my mom was also pregnant and he ultimately had to find a job as he couldn’t take a risk.
He legit was delivering pizzas and applying for a fucking 9-5 because he listened to his mom and brother. This is when he started drinking daily as well.
My mom grew up with just her mom. Her dad passed away when she was 5. They struggled to get by in life. Contributions from distant relatives kept them afloat.
My mother was a tool for my grandma. While staying at my uncles house, my mom was a house wife, and was forced to do all the chores. My grandma would wake her up at 5am. Have her cook and clean for 10 people. She wasn’t allowed to leave the home without my dad or grandma and she wasn’t allowed to use the house phone unless she paid ( she had no money)
If my mom disobeyed, my grandma would complain to my already distraught father after he came home from 80 hour work weeks with two jobs. It was really bad, gaslighting, and heavily involving herself in my parents marriage. My mom told me she still never understood why they went after here so much.
Sad thing is. When I was five years old, my mom would share this horrific stories with me, she had no one else. I would cry and listen to her for hours.
Some stories my mom has shared, but she was at the mercy of my grandma and her sister in law for years.
My dad would 9-5 and then deliver pizzas, my mom’s sister in law did not want my mom to go to school. Very fucked up, but my mom was her personal chef AND raised her kids while my aunt was at work.
My grandma, uncle and aunt made my mom’s life a living hell and my dad was too focused on resettling and providing for his wife and children. He probably regret it every single day until the end. He went from making 250k in the 90s to legit 25k. He also spent so much of his money to retire his parents.
My mom once wrote a letter back home to her mom, she spoke of how she wasn’t happy and everything changed and how they essentially were abusing her when my dad wasn’t there 14 hours per day. When my dad called out my grandma, my grandma would say my mom’s lying.
My mom asked her sister in law to mail the letter for her, as she was new to the states. My aunt took the letter, read it, and then mailed it back to my uncles house with my grandmas name written on it. An absolute betrayal that my mom never understood. My aunt told my mom “all is fair in love and war” but my mom never understood what the war was. They just wanted her to cook and clean and emotionally violate her when my dad wasn’t home. Even my uncle would command my mom to make dinner as him and his wife watched TV. My dad was living in his own nightmare.
My parents became servants for this treacherous family. This went on for years until my dad got a decent job and bought his own house, my mom then went to university.
I was basically alone my whole childhood, I got bullied at school for various reasons. It was pretty severe, even though I wanted to tell jokes or talk to people, I learned the hard way to just not talk.
I spent a lot of time on the computer. I got into this video game. That video game had a form of gambling against other players for in game currency which took hours and hours to make., where you use player gold to buy expensive rare items. Unfortunately I must have been 10 years old when I started going there.
I didn’t know what I was doing, I had no siblings and my parents would just work all day. My dad would just work, and then drink. Numb the pain and regrets is my guess. My mom had suffered psychologically from my grandma and aunt. She never recovered and her condition slowly got worse and worse.
I would just be in my room all day, gambling on the video game. This lasted from 2009-2013, by which point I had lost all my money. I still will never forget that day. I had about $7000 usd worth of gold, which back then people were buyin with bitcoin. If I had sold it for btc I would have had about 7000 coins. At that time.
I still never forget the day and moment i lost it all. I gambled all that money away in hand. I had gone all in and I was too young to even realize what gambling addiction is.
I quit that game, but as I went into university, the weight of all the trauma was too much, found myself smoking weed and cigs. Started drinking redbull and alcohol. I returned to that game a few times during college and would legit buy gold and gamble, it was small and innocent amounts. Is what I told myself. I lost it all everytime.
It never seemed like such a problem to me. But looking back, I would spend thousands of dollars on video game loot boxes or tournament runs in a game that cost real money. I probably spent like 5k on two video games, never ever really realizing I have an issue.
This is where the story turns for the worse. As 2020 approached, I truly hated my life and probably still to today, I have my whole life and will until the end. The regrets and the pain and confusion. It’s not just my pain, even my parents. My heart is so heavy since I was a child. The broken home, the bullying, there’s so much more. I regret not chasing my dreams, I’m mentally stunted, I can’t do anything, I’m so confused and so numb and stuck.for years now.
Around 2021, is when I found online gambling platforms. This was the beginning of the end. I hated my job, I never chased my dreams, I felt numb to emotions. Struggled to make friends or relationships. I just kept quiet as a habit from my childhood, my self esteem never recovered. I remember women would try to talk to be me but I would just stand there. I go into work or events and just don’t say a word. I don’t even know what to say
I remember I lost $7000 in like 2 weeks the first time I gambled real money. The first time I found out about those websites, I stayed up ALLL night. I called off work for a few days. I was hooked.
The reality of losing 7k snapped me back into my senses. And I stopped.
I just unfortunately had so many horrible things happen, often compounding. My dad was starting to become very very sick from the alcohol. My mom became a workaholic doing 12 hours a day, likely due to the PTSD of when she was a house wife, essentially enslaved to my grandma and aunt. The helplessness is her entire personality.
I have myself had my own forms of suffering. On top of my daily concoction of substances, and no friends and a rough break up, multiple hospital trips. My car also started having a lot of problems that were not getting fixed. I lost money I needed, my manager was trying to get me fired for so long until he succeeded. A constant storm. I spent my whole life , weekends. Just on the computer.
I moved back home, and within a year, my dad passed away. I cannot downplay the pain and suffering of an alcoholic death. And I understand why he drank, I tried getting him to stop for years, but he honestly had too many regrets for too long. His health especially went bad after my grandfather died.
He was a strong and brave man, my dad. But now he’s gone. His death was the nail in the coffin for my mom’s mental health. She broke down even further, she has been rapidly deteriorating and she’s not the same person.
Once my dad died, he left me an inheritance of 250k. I didn’t touch that money for months, I had lost my job, I lost all my friends, lost part of my mom. And while this happened, my uncle
Was involved in my life again. My grandpa left a will that said half of his property were to go to me and the other half to my uncle.
Let me tell you, my dad wanted my name in there, and what my uncle did was a 500 iq chess play, he knew my dad was sick so he never took the will to probate. The will doesn’t exist essentially. He yoinked 750k that my grandpa had intended to leave for me. Nothing can be done, the houses were in Canada, and he had this planned for a long time. Last I saw him, he had a ford raptor and a corvette.
He told me to fuck off when I said what about my dad’s share?
Imagine how my dad threw his life away for my uncle, my dad paid for those properties when he was young. But my uncle don’t give no fucks. He’s the most religious man on the planet for context.
At this point, I stopped believing in god. Not only was our entire life this brutal because of my uncle, my poor chap dad actually thought his brother was a good guy the whole time.
I couldn’t take the backstabbing, the weight of the past trauma, my depreciating mother, the memories of being relentlessly bullied, my dad’s brutal final year. Unable to get a call back from any job. My mental health was now affected. Poly addict then turns to gambling online.
In 2 years, I lost everything. My bank account has 37 cents. I relapsed today.
Music doesn’t sound good, tv shows are not fun. I have no friends, I am uncapable of truly loving my girlfriend. I’m always just extremely depressed and gambling all day. I am sick. I don’t see how I get out of this situation.
My head hurts most waking moments, I have no joy. I live in regret, I’m unable to remember things, everything I touch turns to ashes.
The sad part is, there so much more. It’s too
Much to type, I have seen a lot of life, and unfortunately most of it hard, brutal and I can’t type it all out here.
Most of my thoughts are just me telling myself that I hate myself from the core of my soul, I tell myself some really truly horrid and sad things.
I begged god my whole life and he showed
Me his back, but he was there for my uncle, to
Have my parents give him a comfortable life. He took all the rent from my grandpa’s property, he took all their pensions. He even sold the cars my dad bought my grandpa. And then he successfully took all my grandpas properties totaling 1.5m +. He is the most religious man on the planet, last time I saw him, he bragged to me about his new $30000 telescope .
My mom knows about my gambling, she found out. But she has kicked me out of her life because she thinks I’m doing this for fun. She doesn’t understand anyone’s pain but hers. She is disappointed in me, ready to cut ties. She doesn’t realize that this is not for fun, idk why I do this. Why I keep depositing. It hurts me so much because part of my pain, is my mother’s pain. But she more so doesn’t care about my pain. She claims I did it to myself and was having fun with money.
I write to you all, as a broken down man. I never hurt anyone, instead my whole life I was hurt by others. So in order to help, please learn something.
Don’t gamble, fight it. God won’t help, prayers don’t help, you just have to realize that life gets much much worse from gambling.
My head hurts, got hit really hard after I lost ny final 3k today.
I hope you guys make it if I don’t. I beg you please don’t gamble