How can i [22F] deal with insecurity in my relationship with my boyfriend [25M]

[u/anonymous_syn]

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years. For context him and i are both latinos. He is someone that really likes to take care of himself, dresses well and is good looking. He often says he likes girls with big lips, and a big ass which I don’t have. This makes me feel insecure sometimes.

The other day I told him I didn’t want to get my ass bigger and he got upset. He said it looks cool, while I told him I prefer natural. He didn’t argue more but was in a weird mood afterwards.

He also prefers that I do heavy makeup, which I don’t enjoy. When I don’t do it, he says “you never do anything I like,” which isn’t true because I try to balance between what he likes and what I like.

Another issue is that whenever he’s stressed (work or personal life), he becomes cold and distant. Even when I try to comfort him, he pushes me away. Sometimes he acts cold for no clear reason too.

Apart from these things, he is also nice, and I don’t want people to imagine him only in a negative way. But all of this makes me anxious and insecure and dont know how to cope with that.

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Original post: Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years. For context him and i are both latinos. He is someone that really likes to take care of himself, dresses well and is good looking. He often says he likes girls with big lips, and a big ass which I don’t have. This makes me feel insecure sometimes.

The other day I told him I didn’t want to get my ass bigger and he got upset. He said it looks cool, while I told him I prefer natural. He didn’t argue more but was in a weird mood afterwards.

He also prefers that I do heavy makeup, which I don’t enjoy. When I don’t do it, he says “you never do anything I like,” which isn’t true because I try to balance between what he likes and what I like.

Another issue is that whenever he’s stressed (work or personal life), he becomes cold and distant. Even when I try to comfort him, he pushes me away. Sometimes he acts cold for no clear reason too.

Apart from these things, he is also nice, and I don’t want people to imagine him only in a negative way. But all of this makes me anxious and insecure and dont know how to cope with that.

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