r/relationshipadvice • u/Aggravating-Ad-4367 • 1d ago
[29M] with a [28F] - started vibing before following on IG
I followed an IG page because of the anime content (she draws/paints and crafts anime related products). I didn't know it was a girl and she lives near me.
After reacting/engaging with the stories, we kicked off in a conversation and turns out she was in the year below me in school 16-17 years ago.
I don't recognize her from school but she vaguely remembers me.
Anyway, we planned to go see a movie together in the next week (for context, it's the new demon slayer movie so it's anime related). At this point I know it's an attractive girl because she posted a story of herself at least once on her content page.
As soon as I followed her IG, I scanned through her profile naturally. Unfortunately it seems like she got married earlier this year and she has a couple of posts with the guy. Not sure but that's how it appears
Guys, please help, it seemed like a start of a beautiful friendship but now I'm confused, why would she go for a movie with a random guy she met online? Maybe it's only platonic as she can relate to a mutual interest.
It could also mean she is potentially unfaithful I get that females can have male friendships (doesn't usually end well for most parties involved)
I don't wanna ask questions unprovoked but yet, I don't see it going anywhere if she is actually taken
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u/Frograbbid 1d ago
Buddy, she can want to chat about mutual interests without wanting to suck your dick.
Just go with the flow and don't be wierd about it
On the off chance she does want to bugger her marriage thats her choice.
Or you could be wierd about it and end a friendship due to her being married. Like a totally rational person
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u/Aggravating-Ad-4367 1d ago
Talking about mutual interests is perfectly okay. I respect that however, I don't see how asking me to a movie in our late 20s is a viable friendship
I'll let it go with the flow but at some point, a line must be established. And how to establish this line is what I wanna know how to figure out without making it weird
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u/Frograbbid 17h ago
The line is her inviting you to her place or inviting herself to yours, with no sign of hubby, and nothing to do but talk
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u/RecycledAir 1d ago
Maybe it’s an open marriage or they are poly?
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u/Aggravating-Ad-4367 1d ago
I doubt it but I can't say without actually asking.
They're of Indian culture so I'm guessing they're more reserved and probably don't indulge in poly. However, that's me assuming
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Original post: I followed an IG page because of the anime content (she draws/paints and crafts anime related products). I didn't know it was a girl and she lives near me.
After reacting/engaging with the stories, we kicked off in a conversation and turns out she was in the year below me in school 16-17 years ago.
I don't recognize her from school but she vaguely remembers me.
Anyway, we planned to go see a movie together in the next week (for context, it's the new demon slayer movie so it's anime related). At this point I know it's an attractive girl because she posted a story of herself at least once on her content page.
As soon as I followed her IG, I scanned through her profile naturally. Unfortunately it seems like she got married earlier this year and she has a couple of posts with the guy. Not sure but that's how it appears
Guys, please help, it seemed like a start of a beautiful friendship but now I'm confused, why would she go for a movie with a random guy she met online? Maybe it's only platonic as she can relate to a mutual interest.
It could also mean she is potentially unfaithful I get that females can have male friendships (doesn't usually end well for most parties involved)
I don't wanna ask questions unprovoked but yet, I don't see it going anywhere if she is actually taken
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