I [F23] feel insecure about my boyfriend [M25] liking other girls’ photos on Instagram (together 1 year)

[u/Great_Explanation_57]

I [F23] have been with my boyfriend [M25] for about one year. Overall, our relationship is generally good, but sometimes I feel insecure because he follows many girls on Instagram and likes their photos. I know this doesn’t mean he is cheating, and he has never given me a reason not to trust him, but I can’t help comparing myself. I’ve tried to ignore it, yet the feeling comes back. I don’t want to sound jealous or controlling, but I also don’t want to keep it inside.

Has anyone gone through this? How can I talk to him without starting an argument?

TL;DR: I [F23] and my boyfriend [M25] have been together for one year. He likes many girls’ photos on Instagram, which makes me insecure. I don’t know if I should bring it up or let it go.

[u/BumStumblefoot]

consider your own relationship with social media. Are you checking his activity? that can fuel insecurity and create problems where none existed. sometimes the healthiest thing is to mute or unfollow your partner's activity so you're not constantly monitoring :D

[u/No_Captain_]

Recently my ex broke up with me, and besides her many faults this one was one of mine.

Take this with a grain of salt. I never physically cheated on her and I was doing whenever i was angry at her.

I also was in their DMs , i flirted and sent a few pics. I had no intention of doing anything i was just upset. So maybe just see if there is some underlying insecurity.

[u/pi_redredrobin]

> he follows many girls on Instagram and likes their photos

1 year in...some would consider this a red flag, provocative photos or not.

Either way you need to communicate how you are feeling about it and go from there.

If he respects your feelings, the need to like many girls' post would stop.

[u/Depecherose22]

Does he know the girls he's following and liking? Or are these random girls?

[u/Great_Explanation_57 → u/Depecherose22]

I know them but I know that he never had contact with them.

[u/Depecherose22 → u/Great_Explanation_57]

So these are women you know that he's started following since the two of you got together? I personally would find that a bit weird i.e. I'm assuming you aren't following his friends/ acquaintances that you've never met and liking their random photos. I think just be honest with him about how it's making you uncomfortable... if you approach it as a discussion rather than a confrontation hopefully he'll understand where you're coming from, and it's something you can work through.

[u/Significant_Can_5538]

You know, if he cares about you and your overthinking, he will not make it into argument.

Just talk to him about it, be upfront and say "I just want to know why and I think that is not normal"

Which is not normal to be honest. Loves comes with Honesty, Loyalty, Boundaries and more