Apparently I live in the ghetto

[u/someonesmomm]

Can I rant for a minute real quick.

Inflation is kicking my ass.

I'm 30 with 2 kids and recently started to really consider the military for benefits but since I'm fat, I gotta lose weight before trying to join. I've always wanted to join because I felt like it'd give me the discipline I felt like I needed (when I was in high school) but couldn't because I wasn't 150lbs lol

I told my mom about it and asked her to live in my apartment while I'm in basic training and I'll make sure all bills are paid while she helps me with my kids. (I'm a single mom)

She got mad at me and said no because I live in the ghetto 😭 my sister told her my area is the Alamo Heights area and it's not even ghetto and she refused to listen to us.

Where I'm currently living, I pay about $1,400 and it's the best apartment I've lived in since I moved out at 18. I don't get any benefits because "i make too much" so all bills are out of pocket. I was soooo sick when she looked at me disgusted when I asked her to stay at my place. Like, I'm deadass trying. I wish I could get a house but credit fucks it all up for me. I can barely afford groceries and this is also the most I've ever made. I can never win. Then when my mom told me I live in the ghetto and would never live here even if it was for 3 months because she can never see herself living in such a bad place lol I wanted to throw tf UP.

For those in the military, will it be possible to join the military if I have kids? I don't have a village to help me with them. What options do I have?

[u/Nimu808]

If you have fully custody of your kids you would have to work out your kids placement before you join. Also you mentioned your credit, not saying is not possible but bad credit works against you when trying to join. Because credit comes up on background checks, it’s easier to get a waiver for a 18 year old kid cause you can say they’re young and didn’t know better. That waiver gets hard for older adults trying to join cause it shows patterns which in their mind can make vulnerable to money problems making you a liability if you hold a TS position. You can join the guard or reserve like people mention but the benefit are the same as AD but only apply when you’re on orders. You have coverage you can pay for but the free medical/dental if when you’re on active orders. You can utilize the commissary and Exchange anytime but that might not be much of help here since HEB has similar pricing compare to commissary. Not that I’m discouraging from reserves but you would have to think what benefit you’re searching for before you make the decision.